.
It's a syndrome. One gets worn down and brainwashed into believing there is no escape. The more you give your power to another person the weaker you become.
No. They believe that they themselves love the guy who abuse them.
There are a number of different reasons for staying with an abuser: although to those who are not being abused makes no sense. I worked with abused women over 10 years ago. Through all their reasons to stay I believe being afraid of being ALONE is one of the main reasons they stay. Financial situations and lack of employment and housing are other reasons they stay.
It is one hard syndrome to overcome, but it's worth it! Leave when you have a plan and save your own life and sanity.
Yes they do. They even believe if they could be "better" the abuser would not abuse them, that somehow it is their fault. The abuser brainwashes them into believing it is their fault and that no one else could love them. Some even if they want to leave don't have anywhere to go. The abuser usually goes about alienating them from family and friends.
I hate abusers and wish them all a long time in prison.
Some men do the same. Why do you think that is?
Because we are masochists. Lol:)
No, they do not deserve to be mistreated. Some of them may have masochistic tendencies, but it is not only women who are like that. There are plenty of male masochists around as well.
I think there is a lot of factors on why someone seems to stay in an abusive situation.
1. They came from an abusive background and don't readily see new relationships as "abusive".
2. Abusive people can be very manipulating. They are often up and down and make you second guess if you are being truly abused.
3. Even when recognized, they may not think they have the emotional and/or financial resources to "get out".
4. Nobody likes "change", especially if you have invested years into someone.
5. The most danger a woman will ever be in with an abusive partner is when she is really leaving. The stats are pretty frightening. Abusive people don't take rejection well at all.
Me too neither RR. Thank you for your reply and Happy Sunday! :)
That's what I don't get though. How can you love someone who disrespects you and treats you like dirt or worse? Especially those who abusers who
use women for punching bags when they get angry and lose control or drunk and lose control? Thank you for your reply JakobA and Happy Sunday! :)
I worry about the children who might be there to witness such mistreatment. What does it do to THEM? Thank you 
for your thoughtful reply SA and Happy Sunday! :)
Here's what really worries me m2c. What does it do to the children if there are any living in that house? Witnessing the mistreatment as they do year after year
do they become mistreaters too thinking that is how it is supposed to be or do they recognize the evil that is happening and never mimic it when they're grown? It has to affect them in some way and I wonder/worry if any of that effect can be positive? Thank you for your thoughtful reply and Happy Sunday to thee! :)
I'm sure there are. Thank you for your reply NP and Happy Sunday to thee! :)
What happens to the children of abusive people? Do they grow up to be abusers/victims too because that's all they know? Thank you for your thoughtful and informative analysis PeaPod. I appreciate it. Happy Sunday! :)
Some have never been treated better, they don't know of other possibilities out there, they may hear about them.. but believing them is a different matter. Mostly, it's about self worth and how that's been shaped throughout your childhood and life in general.
So since that is all they know that is what they believe to be "normal"? Okay. I guess I can understand that. They have nothing else with which to compare it
. How sad. Thank you for your reply SRG and Happy Wednesday to thee! :)
I think they are at a greater risk to abuse. But I don't believe that is set in stone. Other relatives and caring adults could also be a huge influence on how that child sees the world.
Some abusive people come from perfectly good homes. I'm sure there are genetic markers for it that have little to do with what they grew up with.
It saddens me. Children of racists/bigots/hatemongers/homophobes. How much more than that can you abuse a child? Physically they can be harmed for
sure. But I wonder what is harder to get over...physical/mental/emotional/spiritual harm? Thank you for your reply PeaPod and Happy First Day of Autumn 2016 Thursday! :)
