Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» What if your mate were profoundly deaf and tried a bunch of hearing aids none of which he/she liked? What would you do?
Grrr....! Get them to get some anyway!!! I don't have a mate, I have a parent. Believe me, trying to talk to a person who's profoundly hard of hearing and refuses to use hearing aids, is utterly annoying!!!!!!! Sometimes one has to badger... especially when it's something the other person needs. I mean I understand that no one likes to admit they're old or that they have problems. However, NO hearing aid is going to make a person hear like they did when they were in their 20's. Comfort is one thing, but frankly when one cannot hear a siren passing by their house AND they still insist on driving... nagging is the only way!
BTW - getting a person to get hearing aids is a whole lot easier than getting that person to actually use them.
I'm talking about Jim of course. He went to at least six hearing aid places with me going along too. Had six different tests all with the same results. One place let him try out the Cadillac of hearing aids and he tried it for a day and didn't like it. I think it was either $4400 or $5800 for the pair. It isn't a one-time investment. They eventually need to be upgraded for more thousands of dollars. I asked the other day "are you ever going to do anything more about getting hearing aid?" and he shook his head no. He is 84 Shuhak. I'm not his mother or prison guard. We are both Scorpios. I know I despise those who badger me into doing something I DO NOT WANT TO DO. So I know what will happen. He will just resent me and I will feel like an old harridan stereotypical mate..badgering badgering badgering badgering. I don't relish that role. And as you said he might buy them to shut me up and then simply not use them so I gain nothing. I hope he will eventually come around to seriously trying it again. SIGH. It's not easy being me sometimes. This is one of those times. Thank you for your thoughtful reply. As it is I have to face him so he can read my lips as I speak louder than usual. I feel for him and I don't know how I can help. Fingers crossed he changes his views.
This post was edited by RosieG at January 21, 2020 10:22 AM MST
Oh, I understand your situation exactly. With us (me and my sister) its my mom. She Will sit there and smile and nod to whatever we say. We, of course, assume she understood what we said. Only to get a resounding "I never said that". We did get her the cadillac of hearing aids (over $4000). Invisible, rechargeable, and progressive. She won't wear them. excuses - "People might see them" (no, they're invisible) "They're uncomfortable" (you'l get used to them). "They don't work". (you have to wear them for them to work). "they're too noisy" (we'll get them adjusted). "I don't like seeing the hearing people" (we'l go with you). "I don't need them". (sigh)
No, you're not his mother or guardian. You're merely someone who loves him and wants what's best for him. Yes, they are expensive (one used to be able to buy a new car for that much money). Even so, you might not want to get the cheap ones. Literally, "you get what you pay for".
What I worry most about is loss of cognitive functioning. You cannot engage the brain if you only hear gibberish instead of precise words. At 84 the mental function is going to deteriorate anyway. I'd like the rate to be very slow but I think not hearing will hasten decline. Meanwhile I sit and ponder my options. Thank you for your thoughtful reply. You know exactly what I mean since you've been there/are there! :)
Shuhak 