Among siblings as we get older do the differences fade away and the similarities become bolder? Seems so with my baby sister and me. Thee?

You still have a way to go agewise Shuhak. There's always hope that things could still change. There is a 7-year difference between my sister and me. She was always VERY outgoing and had tons of friends. The opposite of me totally. She is the poster girl for EXTROVERT and everyone always loves her. What's not to love? Me? Being invisible was my cuppa tea and the more often I was the safer I felt.But now I'm 82 and she just turned 75 and as far as outlook and views and feelings we are the same person. She is still very outgoing of course and involved in lots of things that take her outside the home where she can mingle. I'm not a mingler. We never really had difficulties beyond the normal sibling rivalry. No big hurts that we inflicted on each other so that's a blessing. Of course she has known me her entire life longer than anyone else still alive and the same goes for me. We have memories to share and discuss that no other living human being has. Thank you for your reply. Time can make some nifty changes. I hope they do for you and your siblings. In the end hope you become friends! :) This post was edited by RosieG at February 4, 2020 10:10 AM MST

True.  I just turned 56, my sister is 59, and my brother is 61.  We are all big-time introverts (so were my parents).  My siblings and I were never close-knit with each other (we grew further apart when everyone left home).  I mean we're not hateful of each other or anything, we're just not "tight".   My brother doesn't talk to me (nor I him), although he occasionally calls my sister - but only when he wants something.  He became jealous of me just after he left home (his life fell apart and mine didn't), and he never really got over that.  The only thing keeping him connected with us is my mom.  When she dies we probably won't hear from him again... unless he wants something. 

Condolences m'dear. I think probably more families that we know have someone like that in the family. When they contact you it's because they want need would like very much something from you or of you. SIGH. He may be lost to you forever but well maybe your sister will loosen up at some point? I don't know how it would have been if both my sister Carol and I had been introverts. All 3 of you were/are introverts? YIKES! It might have brought us together sooner but maybe it would have incited some kind of competition. I mean I don't compete. Have no interest in it. But maybe it's because I never needed to because I was alwas distinctly me and my sister was always distinctly her and no one would have ever confused us temperament wise or personality wise. We appeal to a different demographic. Hers was always much larger of course. It goes with the territory of being very outgoing and friendly and instantly likable. I admire her for that and I always have. But even though we have the same parents our paths in life have been quite dissimilar. Thank you for your reply Shuhak! :)