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Friendship requests on AnswerMug.

In your opinion, how many times should a request for online friendship be denied before the sender "gets it?"


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65 comments

  • Transquesta
    Transquesta
    I liked the color of this option the best. :-)

    In any case, what usually happens is that a friendship denial isn't received by the prospective friend.  He or she has no way to tell if you've denied their entreaties, and thus keeps sending them thinking the system has forsaken them.  I friended a person about five or six times on SH and never got a response. This person and I had always hit it off in public conversation, so I just assumed something had broken until she very publicly scolded me.

    It might help to clear up the confusion if there was a way to PM someone with or about a friendship request.



    October 10, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • Randy D
    Randy D Transquesta
    Unless I misunderstand navigating the website (which is entirely possible), you cannot send anyone a message unless you're mutual friends with each other.  Hey, maybe I should accept the request just to be able to send the message that I don't want to be friends, then remove the person from my list of friends. Hmmmm.

    October 10, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • Transquesta
    Transquesta Randy D
    Precisely!  That way you can let them know in no uncertain terms, but WITHOUT publicly humiliating them...assuming that isn't your intention.
    October 10, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • n/a
    n/a
    Once should be enough. However it could be a mistake or glitch, or whatever. Second time it should be clear there was no need making it a second. Hmm.
    October 10, 2016 - 3 like this

  • Randy D
    Randy D n/a
    It's been at least four so far.

    :|

    October 10, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • n/a
    n/a Randy D
    Maybe you should just tell them. I have at times.
    October 10, 2016 - 2 like this

  • ProblemCh1ld
    ProblemCh1ld n/a
    That didn't help in this instance.  I accepted this airhead's friend request and said in no uncertain terms to stop sending them. Then I Unfriended him. He messaged me "claiming" he was having trouble reading my comment to which I did not reply. There should be an option to block these people. I believe it's been five times so far. 
    November 12, 2016 - 2 like this

  • Randy D
    Randy D ProblemCh1ld
    I agree with you. It gets annoying, doesn't it?
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    November 12, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • ProblemCh1ld
    ProblemCh1ld Randy D
    Yup it sure does, he knows it does and that's why he continues. If he has enough gray matter to log on the computer, he's well aware of his actions, and he continues because he's allowed to. 
    November 12, 2016 - 2 like this

  • n/a
    n/a ProblemCh1ld
    I told him to make a list with those who he already asked and who said no to him, not to keep bothering us (as he seems not remembering who he already asked).
    November 12, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • Randy D
    Randy D ProblemCh1ld
    Trolls be like . . .



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    November 12, 2016

  • n/a
    n/a Randy D
    Seems being a bigger issue than just one person being targeted. Maybe JA and her crew should have a talk with him about good etiquette.
    November 12, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • ProblemCh1ld
    ProblemCh1ld Randy D
    If he looked like THAT, I wouldn't mind as much. lol. But if I had to guess, he's probably a pimply rosy palmer. 
    November 12, 2016

  • n/a
    n/a ProblemCh1ld
    I'd mind it a lot, no matter what look a man would have. I don't want their ding dongs in my face or any of their fetishes if I don't share the interest.
    November 12, 2016

  • ProblemCh1ld
    ProblemCh1ld n/a
    Seriously I wouldn't either. I was just trying to find some humor in this. 
    November 12, 2016

  • n/a
    n/a ProblemCh1ld
    Yus. 
    November 12, 2016

  • Randy D
    Randy D n/a
    You said, "yus". I miss GrilledCheeseGirl so much. 
    ~

    November 12, 2016

  • n/a
    n/a Randy D
    So do I. Don't tell her. :-)
    November 12, 2016

  • n/a
    n/a ProblemCh1ld
    They claimed the same about my message on their whiteboard. I copy pasted it in an IM, including the gif. I hope it stops here.
    November 12, 2016

  • ProblemCh1ld
    ProblemCh1ld n/a
    Maybe one to the throat would help. 


    November 12, 2016

  • n/a
    n/a ProblemCh1ld
    I hate becoming violent.
    November 12, 2016

  • ProblemCh1ld
    ProblemCh1ld n/a
    Ok then, I will kick him twice then. Lol
    November 12, 2016

  • n/a
    n/a ProblemCh1ld
    Maybe aim for the nuts instead of the throat. ;-)
    November 12, 2016

  • Just Asking
    Just Asking
    Until the sender gets it?!? How about until the recipient gets it?!? Would you just accept my dang friend request? I'll send it a million and one times if I have to. Believe me, bub, I will wear you down until you finally click that confirm button. 

    October 10, 2016 - 4 like this

  • n/a
    n/a Just Asking
    Lolz. Why do I believe you?
    October 10, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • Randy D
    Randy D n/a
    :)
    October 10, 2016 - 2 like this

  • Randy D
    Randy D Just Asking
    Hey, wait . . .

    :)

    October 10, 2016

  • Transquesta
    Transquesta Just Asking
    ROTFLMAO!
    October 10, 2016

  • ProblemCh1ld
    ProblemCh1ld Just Asking
    If it had ONLY been real, he would now reside at the county dump in a plastic garbage bag, but this is how it played out instead:

    My hands 'round his scrawny neck
    Right through my computer screen
    But morning dawned & I awoke
    This sucks!  It was ONLY just a dream!

    November 9, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • n/a
    n/a ProblemCh1ld
    Left him a message on his wall, yet another time asking him to respect my wish not being requested another time. I even suggested him making a list with us if he cannot keep us all apart. Sighs.
    November 9, 2016 - 2 like this

  • ProblemCh1ld
    ProblemCh1ld n/a
    That's too funny.  I just did too.
    November 9, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • n/a
    n/a ProblemCh1ld
    I think a sincere person would respect such a wish. At least I hope.
    November 9, 2016

  • Randy D
    Randy D n/a
    Hey, wait a second here!  Who in the heck are you two talking about?

    :|

    November 9, 2016

  • n/a
    n/a Randy D
    I think there should be enough clues reading the thread. ;-)
    November 9, 2016

  • Randy D
    Randy D n/a
    Come on, you KNOW how paranoid I am!  It's not me, is it?

    *Nerously biting all ten fingernails and sweating profusely. 

    -

    November 9, 2016

  • n/a
    n/a Randy D
    Did I leave you a message on your wall about leaving me alone? Btw, we already are friends. Or what we should call that. ;-)
    November 9, 2016

  • Randy D
    Randy D n/a
    I believe we're all speaking of the same person. I'm beginning to suspect that many of us were bombarded with that person's requests, and we must have collectively yet individually declined them, causing their repetition. 
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    November 9, 2016

  • n/a
    n/a Randy D
    I hope they understood my last message as it was even more clear than ever.
    November 12, 2016

  • Judas Goat
    Judas Goat
    I have no clue. Do I look like the Orfice of Delphi?
    October 10, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • Randy D
    Randy D Judas Goat
    Well, maybe not that particular orifice, but certainly like an orifice, yes. 
    ~

    November 12, 2016

  • Luna Lovegood
    Luna Lovegood
    Once is enough. The second time, I just leave them hanging - after a while they get the hint and cancel their request, lol
    October 10, 2016

  • Randy D
    Randy D Luna Lovegood
    Thanks, I think I'll go with that plan. 

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    October 10, 2016

  • Karen
    Karen
    I've only refused one on here.  They have sent it twice already.  Next time,  if there is one,  I'm just going to leave it. 
    October 10, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • Randy D
    Randy D Karen
    That's what I've decided to do too. 
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    October 10, 2016

  • Karen
    Karen Randy D
    Good to know I'm not alone. I just don't want t be friends with this member. I don't care for their questions and never answer them. They are just not my cuppa tea. We have quite a difference in fashion tastes. :)
    October 10, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • Randy D
    Randy D Karen
    Thanks, good points. 
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    October 10, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • Transquesta
    Transquesta Karen
    Damnit, why didn't you say something before now?  :-)
    October 10, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • Karen
    Karen Transquesta
    Well, I tried to hit the 'Like' button but got this message: An error has occurred processing the request. The target may no longer exist. 
    October 10, 2016

  • ProblemCh1ld
    ProblemCh1ld Karen
    I'm having a similar problem trying to reply.
    November 9, 2016

  • ProblemCh1ld
    ProblemCh1ld Karen
    lmfao  ;)))
    November 9, 2016