Has those lack/gain of hugs affected you as an adult today?
Nup. Mum was cold. She used asthma as an excuse. She couldn't kiss or cuddle because "it stops me breathing." It wasn't til I was older that I worked out that it was a lie.
I overcame it via my attraction to hippie and alternative lifestyles. Everyone in my world hugs and kisses hello and goodbye once they have developed warm feeling in making friends.
Define "enough." Was it enough to make me a warm, fuzzy person who likes hugs? No. I'm cuddly with my own kids and do ok with someone if I'm in a relationship with them, but I don't like being touched in general, no hugs, handshakes, a hand on my shoulder- nothing. Ick.
No, my brothers were my mom's favorites but she wasn't interested in me. Dad gave me all the hugs I wanted when I was a kid but when I became a teenager he pulled away probably because he was afraid of being seen as a creep or a perv but I love hugs more than anything else so I still haven't quite forgiven dad for pulling away and not giving me enough hugs when I was a teenager.
So yeah it affected me as an adult because now I absolutely hate media types who make dads afraid to look like creeps or pervs because they robbed me of my hugs.
They were loving but not huggers
My parents hugged me a lot as a kid and they still do. It has made me into someone who likes hugs. My best friend and I always hug when we're parting for a while and I'm glad that we do :)
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i dont remember my parents ever hugging me, not even once, i found hugging others awkward even to this day, i was isolated a lot as a child, wasnt allowed to bring friends home, not allowed to date, and yes its affected me, im 55 and have never dated, never got married or had kids because of it, i feel like it ruined my life
