Concerning interracial relationships, do certain pairings have an "easier" time being accepted or have fewer cultural hurdles?

  Yes. I can speak from experience based on the fact that I’ve been in an interracial marriage for the last couple of decades, I’m African-American and my wife is Asian.  Prior to my marriage, I had dated not only African-American women but also women of many different ethnicities. 

  I’ve found that environment has a lot to do with whether or not difficulties exist. I was in the

This post was edited by Randy D at May 7, 2020 2:36 PM MDT

I also speak from experience, having been married to an Afro-Caribbean/American woman for nearly six years. My wife is acutely aware of people's racist attitudes, even in our neighborhood of supposedly liberal, open-minded people. Having converted, she is a unique combination of both black and Jewish, and she always talks about how she knows who in our egalitarian congregation is racist.

Being in an interracial relationship, I can still only speak from my own personal experience, and YES, I do think some interracial couples have it easier than others, but there is still a lot of taboo and racism, usually masked as just jokes. My husband is Vietnamese, and I am white, so we do get a lot of yellow fever, Asian persuasion comments among other things, and for him I think a lot of people are surprised by the fact that he is with a white woman as most arent into Asian men (apparently I guess?). It doesn’t seem like it’s a big deal, but there is always a time where we meet new people and there always has to be a comment or little discussion about our relationship and it’s usually why do you like Asian men, small penis, how did he manage to get a white girl blah blah blah. 

When we first started dating I used to just brush these comments off but now for sure I call people out because it is frustrating having people constantly try to invalidate my relationship for the sake of some stupid overused racist jokes. Also most of these comments are from white men, as if they think they are Entitled to white women before anyone else. 

I do think as well that environment has a lot to do with it. Most of the comments I have experienced were in my small town where most of the population was white, and most of the minorities would date within their own little communities. Here in Toronto though where there is a lot of diversity, people don’t bat an eyelash at us. 

Despite all of this though, I know that it could be more difficult to exist an an interracial couple under Different circumstances. 

I met her through her sister, with whom I had one date before we really became friends, but I hadn't dated non-Caucasian women before that. I believe she dated a few white guys before me. My first wife was white.

We basically moved in together after our second date (I was 50 and she was 35, so we weren't kids), and we've had a harmonious time of it from the beginning. That was in 2010. My family had a much harder time accepting it than hers did. My parents, both of whom have since died, never accepted it.

I think it depends on your area you live in.   

My step-Grandmother is Okinawan (she gets offended if you refer to her as Japanese)  I know she and Grandpa made a deliberate choice not to have children because of the discrimination the child would have suffered through in Okinawa.  Especially, if the child would have curly hair. (All of Grandpa's children have naturally curly hair)

Growing up I noticed that mixed children were picked on more as well. 

I believe Asian/White or Mex/White have the easier time in my area.


My SIL married a man from Czech Republic.  While in marriage counseling, the counselor asked her "How did her family react to her being in a inter-racial relationship?"  She asked us how we felt about it.  We told her she, "We did not consider it a inter-racial relationship. He is white. It is a multi-cultural relationship. And we did not care, we like her husband.  But to tell the counselor we were not 'smart' enough to realize it."  We still do not consider it inter-racial. They did divorce...we still have a friendship with him.  This post was edited by my2cents at May 9, 2020 12:33 AM MDT

My observation is that it is more readily accepted when the minority partner is a woman, at least for my generation. I think it's about unconscious racism and sexism. The man is 'supposed' to be of an equal or higher status than the woman. Just as older man/younger woman is more accepted than the reverse.

  Why do you tease me and toy with me like this?  You know you’re not going to relocate to California and that I’m not going to relocate to Arizona. Grrrrrr.

I'm married to a woman of a different nationality, but we're both white. I know that's not what you're asking about, but there is significant cultural differences and social perceptions, social curiosity and stereotypes even with that.