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If you find out some certain person is angry at you -how long would take for you trying to guess what you did?

Posted - October 4, 2016

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  • Oh my life in a nutshell. Ha!
      October 4, 2016 12:41 AM MDT
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  • 17261
    I'd most likely have a rather qualified hunch why they were mad at me. My senses work that way. There will always be exceptions.
      October 4, 2016 12:58 AM MDT
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  • Don't you just love it when she / he looks at you like you're a deranged loon and says 'I have a hunch...'
    )
      October 4, 2016 1:04 AM MDT
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  • 17261
    Haha. I'm that person. I might pick up another word than 'hunch' though. ;-)
      October 4, 2016 1:36 AM MDT
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  • I knew it!
      October 4, 2016 1:48 AM MDT
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  • 17261
    Bad girl?! *puppy eyes*
      October 4, 2016 1:51 AM MDT
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  • 411
    Half an hour.
      October 4, 2016 1:31 AM MDT
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  • Depends on the person.
    With someone close and important, instantly or at the first appropriate moment.
    With someone I don't know well enough, or fear, perhaps never - would more likely walk away.
      October 4, 2016 3:04 AM MDT
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  • 3375
    I usually have some sense that someone is not happy with me.  If I don't, they are playing me real well. 
      October 4, 2016 9:51 AM MDT
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  • Agreed. In real life, it's obvious if you have empathy and are tuned in and observant.

    Online can be different and there's no way of being sure of the truth.



    This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at October 5, 2016 10:16 AM MDT
      October 4, 2016 11:03 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    Very true!  
      October 5, 2016 10:16 AM MDT
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  • I would have to have a little discussion with them and explain why they're completely in the wrong to be angry at me. 
      October 4, 2016 12:57 PM MDT
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  • Anger is a secondary emotion.
    Underneath it is one or more of three primary emotions: pain, fear or shame.
    I scan my memories to check if anything I said or did could have triggered those responses in the other.
    If I can't see any that are obvious, then I need to ask the other how he or she is feeling, what triggered it and what the need or request is.
    I regard this as a process that is valid for friendships, husband, anyone close.
    Time depends on privacy and the other's priorities but I find that the sooner the better because most people seem very forgetful of details.
      October 4, 2016 1:34 PM MDT
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