Could you date someone who likes modern country music or would you consider that a HUGE red flag?

  I am?  Oh, wait, you’re right. I sure am. 

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  The two people in a married couple are supposed to date each other. 

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  There are certainly some people who consider a potential mate’s choice in music to be extremely indicative of whether or not they should get together. For some, it is a red flag if and when those tastes vary widely. For others, it’s no big deal. Each party determines what he or she finds to be a minor issue or a red flag. 

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  You’re entitled to see it that way. I believe that there are a number of factors that people consider when deciding in a mate, and what’s seen as shallow to one might be insignificant to another. Most people have deal-breakers that the won’t budge on, and sometimes they might have extremely good reasons for them, even when the person they’re rejecting or an outsider disagrees with its validity. 

  On the topic of music, a person might be so staunchly against a particular genre that he or she knows it will cause friction if it’s ever played in his or her presence, AND in order to be fair to the other person, would not attempt an ultimatum of “choose me or the music, but not both”. By not entering into a relationship that has friction built into it, instead of calling it shallowness, it might even be graciousness. 

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