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In your family, what is something you were not expected to know about, but you found out anyway?

 

My grandmother spent about a week in jail in the 1950s for suspicion of violating what were in those days known as “Blue Laws”.

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Posted - January 29, 2021

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  • 8214
    My Aunts real first name.  It was pretty...different.  
      January 29, 2021 4:28 PM MST
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  • 44654
    My grandfather was supposed to marry my grandmother's sister, but got her pregnant instead. This was 1910s.
      January 29, 2021 4:31 PM MST
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  • 10664
    Between the death of my grandfather and the marriage of my first step grandfather, my grandmother had a child.  However, she gave it away and didn't tell anyone about it.

    (doorbell rings)

    "Yes?"

    "Surprise, were yer kin!"

    "Say what???"



      January 29, 2021 4:57 PM MST
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  • 53526

     

      A baby is a human being, not an “it”.
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      January 29, 2021 5:38 PM MST
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  • 13395
    "Congratulations Mrs. D. Your human being is a boy"!
      January 29, 2021 5:49 PM MST
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  • 53526

     

      What sense does that make?

      “Your baby is a boy.”

      “However, she gave it the baby away . . . ”
      “However, she gave it the child away . . . ”
      “However, she gave it him or her away . . . ”

      January 29, 2021 5:55 PM MST
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  • 13395
    You said without mentioning any exceptions allowed that 'a baby is a human being'.
      January 29, 2021 6:34 PM MST
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  • 53526

     

      That’s correct. A baby is a human being, and human beings are not referred to as “it”.  Animals and inanimate objects, sure, but people, no. Numerous people call babies “it”, yet do not do so when referring to older children nor to adults, so my question to them is what is the magical age or point in that baby‘s life where suddenly they stop using the word “it”?
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      January 29, 2021 7:08 PM MST
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  • 13395
    Maybe when they are toilet trained.
      January 29, 2021 7:19 PM MST
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  • 53526

     

      Perhaps that makes sense to you, and that’s fine, you’re entitled to your own perspective. Personally, regardless of being even one minute old or at any other time throughout his or her life, I find it disrespectful and dismissive to call a baby “it”.
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      January 29, 2021 7:24 PM MST
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  • 13395
    As if the baby would care.
      January 29, 2021 7:31 PM MST
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  • 53526

     

      As if I stated at any point in time that the baby would or would not care. 

      Even so, since you broached it, I’ll bite. Regardless of the baby even being cognizant of it, there are other people involved also, people who are cognizant. For instance, based on your stance here so far, it appears to be inconsequential to you if someone calls a baby “it”, and for the sake of argument, let’s say the baby in question is your child. If you don’t mind your child being called “it”, yet I do mind my child being called “it”, then even if or when the baby doesn’t care, I do. 

      Just because a baby is unaware of something is not the determining factor in whether or not that thing is wrong. 

      Wow, we’re getting into the philosophical here.


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      January 29, 2021 7:38 PM MST
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  • 13395
    Yes, be sure to notify all doctors not to ever again say to the new mom 'it's a boy' or 'it's a girl'.
      January 29, 2021 7:47 PM MST
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  • 44654
    Nowadays they already know.
      January 30, 2021 11:13 AM MST
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  • 13395
    'Zat right!?
      January 30, 2021 11:54 AM MST
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  • 10664
    Ooookaaaaay...    Evidently you don't know my family.  I've always known my siblings are extraterrestrials (although mom disagreed... well.. most of the time, anyway).  
      January 29, 2021 9:34 PM MST
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  • 53526

     

      Are extraterrestrials human? If not, then we’re talking about two distinctly separate concepts here.
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      January 29, 2021 10:56 PM MST
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  • 10664
    Outside of myself, no one's ever met an extraterrestrial.  I had to grow up with some.  Let me tell you, they were beyond strange!   Tell me, what human can freeze a pillow simply by touching it?  What kind of human can pull their thumb  completely off ...and then instantly reattach it?  What kind of human can emit toxic fumes at will (and I'm not talking about flatulence)?  I can't even begin to tell you the things they did to Major Matt Mason...egad!  Even after a thorough searching of the house and yard, neither his head or helmet was never found (just his cracked faceplate).  To this very day the location of his head remains a mystery (I always suspected it was beamed back to their home planet for dissection).  I tried to say my so-called "siblings" were found under a rock (meteorite?), but mom kept insisting they weren't.  So tell me, what other reason could possibly account for all the bizarre things they did?  I tell you they were extra-extraterrestrials!


    This post was edited by Shuhak at January 30, 2021 11:59 AM MST
      January 30, 2021 11:45 AM MST
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  • 44654
    I don't like that either.
      January 30, 2021 11:12 AM MST
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  • 13395
    Many years ago my grandmother almost died form loss of blood while riding home after having an illegal abortion.
      January 29, 2021 6:40 PM MST
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  • 10052
    My grandparents were married to each other twice. I don't think they wanted their grandchildren to know that they were married briefly, divorced briefly and then married again for over 55 years. 
      January 30, 2021 4:58 PM MST
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