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What has been the best funeral you’ve ever attended in your life? [Your definition of “best”, not mine.] ~

Posted - January 30, 2021
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  • 10940
      January 30, 2021 5:28 PM MST
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  • 17757
    I've only been to a few funerals.  Two of them were when I was a child and had no say about being there.  I was creeped to hell and back.  I went to my MIL's.   The other was a memorial service for my daughter months after her death.  I was unable and unwilling to even discuss it until I was ready.  It was helpful in the end, so I guess that's my answer. 
      January 30, 2021 7:45 PM MST
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  • 53840

    Thank you for this truly personal perspective, and I’m sorry for the loss of all your loved ones, especially your daughter. They say that no parent wants his or her child to go first, I can’t even imagine how painful that has been for you. 

    ~

      January 30, 2021 8:22 PM MST
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  • 17757
    Thank you dear friend.  I have read, and I believe, that having a child precede you in death is the most unnatural and difficult experience possible.   Of my childhood and high school friends inside my Facebook circle, 14 have lost a child.  The stories are different, but the aftermaths are similar. 
      January 31, 2021 10:48 AM MST
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  • 53840

    Wow. 

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      January 31, 2021 1:07 PM MST
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  • 5450
    I don’t think a funeral could be called good, better or best,  but the one I’ll always remember is my grandmother-in-law’s funeral.  That’s because laughter broke out, and laughing’s probably the worst thing you can do at a funeral.

    The thing that describes my husband’s grandmother on his mom’s side of the family is the Raised By Narcissists subreddit.  Some of the stories on there are a really good description of how my grandmother-in-law acted.

    Anyway, my husband was delivering the eulogy, and in the eulogy he told a story about how his grandma was always looking out for him.  He told the story about that time when kids from his neighborhood stole his bicycle.  A few days later,  his grandma broke into that kid’s storage shed to get his bicycle back.

    My M-I-L giggled and then started laughing.  When my husband asked her what was so funny, she told him the real story.  Grandma hid the bicycle at one of her friend’s houses, brought it back a few days later, and then told him she broke into the neighborhood bully’s shed to get it back for him.  That’s a totally narcissist thing to do, lol.

    Hubby thought that was pretty funny, so then everybody started laughing.




    This post was edited by Livvie at January 31, 2021 10:39 AM MST
      January 30, 2021 10:04 PM MST
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  • 10050
    Wow. That IS narcissistic! 

    I don't think laughter at a funeral is a bad thing at all. Remembering with laughter is the best remembering. 
      January 31, 2021 8:14 AM MST
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  • 10050
    Unusual question. 

    My maternal grandfather's memorial service was good. He lived a long and adventurous life and was a blessing to many. 

      January 31, 2021 8:20 AM MST
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