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How much of whom you are is due to the influences of others and how much of you belongs to you alone? Any idea? Ballpark?

Posted - May 4

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  • 7801
    For myself, I'd say 60-40 (60 me, 40 others).  Of course that percentage varies depending on circumstances (past and/or present).  My personality plus how I'm wired also dictate how easily influenced I am in certain situations.  
      May 4, 2021 5:31 PM MDT
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  • 106636
    Is anyone in your family like you Shuhak? My baby sister (now 76) is the gregarious outgoing very popular one. Me? The shy one, the studious one, the quiet one, the loner. We are very close now but still similar in our lifestyles. I'm a homer. She goes to a pottery studio several times a week to make different bowls and plaques. She discovered she has a passion and a talent for it. She and my mom were the creative ones. My dad and I just appreciated them. I still do appreciate her. I guess we don't change all that much in life. We just get older if we're lucky! Thank you for your reply! :) This post was edited by RosieG at May 6, 2021 3:54 AM MDT
      May 5, 2021 3:16 AM MDT
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  • 7801
    My entire family are/were shy introverts, although none are quite like me.  We're all kind of homebodies, and don't like  being around people (but not recluses).  
      May 5, 2021 1:58 PM MDT
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  • 106636
    Really? Golly then there's rarely tension or disagreement among you? No ugly arguments that break out when you get together? Some families go through the paces periodically dreading every minute. Seems silly to me to spend any time at all with folks you dislike, relatives or not. Thank you for your reply Shuhak! :)
      May 6, 2021 3:52 AM MDT
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  • 7801
    No, no ugly arguments.  You ought to see our game nights.  Once the diner table is cleared, my sister will eventually ask, "What do we want to play?  We've got Catch Phrase, One-Eyed Jacks, Taboo .... or do we want to try something else?".  Someone will mumble, "whatever everyone else wants", and we all proceed to sit there for nearly half an hour, waiting for the "other guy" to choose.  Eventually my sister wil plop a game down and say, "were playing this one!"  Someone will inevitably grumble, but my sister won't back down, so we play it.  Once we've played it a few times and are tired of it, my sister will ask the same question again... and gets the same response.
      May 6, 2021 12:43 PM MDT
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  • 106636
    You mean GAME NIGHTS really exist? Even though as you depict it they are predictable there's something kinda cozy and comforting about it. It involves spending time with one another in a relaxed setting without axes to grind or arguments to win. You just amble an mosey along. I like that. When my son was a kid we had board games we played. Then we got hooked on Scrabble and stuck with that pretty much until he began winning everything all the time. His score would be 400 or something ridiculous and I don't even want to remember mine. I thought I was good with words. No match for him! Of course I say that with much pride. I'm pretty sure parents don't mind being eclipsed by their kids. In fact I'm gonna ask. Thank you for your reply Shuhak! :) This post was edited by RosieG at May 7, 2021 10:01 PM MDT
      May 7, 2021 5:39 AM MDT
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