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Were your parents your caregivers during your adulthood?

At age 30 I got hepatitus.  At age 40 I had surgery.  My parents were my caregivers.  

Posted - July 31, 2021
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  • My mother died when I was 18.  I was fortunate enough that I didn't need extra care from my father in adulthood.  I got married at 22 and my husband and I have taken care of each other when needed ever since.
    Very nice that your parents were there for you when you needed them.  
      July 31, 2021 8:15 AM MDT
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  • 34246
    I broke my neck in a car accident while I was pregnant. The week before my husband cut his index finger off in a saw mill accident.  So for awhile we were quite a pair.  Yes my parents helped us at that time. We stayed in their home for a few months while healing. 
      July 31, 2021 8:29 AM MDT
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  • 44601
    My father disappeared when I was six. When I joined the Navy when I turned 18, mom couldn't wait for me to leave. As an adult, I didn't need much care until my two recent surgeries. My wife took care of me then. I needed it.
      July 31, 2021 8:49 AM MDT
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  • 19937
    When I was 24, I move into my own apartment.  Not long thereafter, I came down with a very bad case of the flu and I went back home for my mom to care for me.  Since then, I have been fortunate enough to be able to take care of myself.
      July 31, 2021 8:59 AM MDT
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  • 17592
    No.  My mother would always try to help, God bless her, but I could not deal with that.  I never told her about surgeries.  When I had joint replacements, my sister flew in and stayed with me a week or so.  Mostly I just had a friend or neighbor on standby in case I needed help.  That works the best.  If I am sick or feel unwell I don't want to see or hear anyone.  I remember having flu-type illnesses a few times during the years my kids were growing up.  I remember dreading 3:15 when they would get home from school.  And they so wanted to help. 
      July 31, 2021 9:35 AM MDT
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  • 10052
    Once my dad came to help out when I'd been injured. My mom was always willing to help. I've never felt very comfortable asking for help, even when I know I need it. Why? Desire to be self-sufficient or fear of being let down?  Probably some of both. 
      July 31, 2021 9:48 AM MDT
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  • 17592
    Boy, that sounds like something I would write.  Really. 
      August 1, 2021 11:43 AM MDT
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  • 10052
    Thank you. We are more the same than we are different. Some much more than others and isn't that the coolest thing? 
      August 1, 2021 12:53 PM MDT
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  • 53502

     

      You know, I should have the two of you over here for a nice visit with me! Discuss it amongst yourselves and get back to me as to whether you’d prefer basement seating or subbasement seating. 


    ~

      August 1, 2021 4:28 PM MDT
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  • 10052
    No, thank you. 
      August 1, 2021 6:05 PM MDT
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  • 53502

     

      In your case, I really must insist. 

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      August 1, 2021 11:02 PM MDT
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  • 44601
      August 2, 2021 10:41 AM MDT
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  • 53502

     

      Hey, wait . . . how did you know my routine? You haven’t been filming the action, have you? Grrrrrrr.


    ~

      August 2, 2021 10:48 AM MDT
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  • 17592
    No can do. 
      August 2, 2021 9:31 AM MDT
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  • 17592
    Pretty cool. :)
      August 2, 2021 9:29 AM MDT
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  • 53502

     

      Nope.
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      July 31, 2021 9:58 AM MDT
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  • They have been during the times I've needed it. I may be 29 but I'm still their child and they will be my caregivers if I require it and they are able. :)
      July 31, 2021 8:17 PM MDT
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  • 10052
    As it should be! And one day may you be lucky enough to be able do the same for them! 
      July 31, 2021 9:12 PM MDT
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  • 7792
    It has been a bit of role reversal at this point in my adult life. As it should be.
      August 1, 2021 12:55 PM MDT
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