Either specifically in your experiences, or with people in general, think of some things that people stop doing when a pivotal* or influential* relative of theirs passes away.
Examples: stop in-fighting, stop gathering for events that previously centered on the deceased when she or he was alive, stop sweating the small stuff, stop procrastinating, stop a good habit, stop a bad habit, stop making excuses, stop feeling sorry for oneself, stop feeling anything at all, stop hurting, stop remembering how the deceased looked, stop enjoying life, stop caring about anyone or anything, stop grieving, stop loving the deceased (my former stepfather was in his forties when his mother passed away, he shocked me by expressing that he felt she had betrayed him by dying, that he had never and could never imagine life on earth without her, saw her death as a personal slight against him for which he could not forgive her).
*For those of you who want to respond, the words “pivotal” and “influential” are not restricted to either positive nor negative interpretations; you may consider any possible connotation(s) of them as you see fit.
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