Here’s the scenario I’m asking about: A dad gives his son a name that will attract teasing. The dad knows this but he expects his son to stand up for the name. When the kid gets older, he hates his name for all the misery he thinks it brought but the dad gets angry because the kid should’ve learned to stand up for his name.
This line of thinking makes no sense to me but I’m wondering if it’s some old way of thinking that was normal a few decades ago.
I’m asking because this is the case with my husband who hates his name and his dad can’t stand it that he hates his name. My F-I-L was also really upset that he wasn’t given a say when my husband and I chose names for our own kids. Now that my F-I-L has been no contact for a few years and is out of the picture, my husband is filing for a legal name change.