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Is the grass always greener on thr otherside of the fence?

Posted - November 10, 2016

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  • As you might have noticed - there are some typing errors.... can you guess why??
      November 10, 2016 2:42 PM MST
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  • Yes, of course the grass is always greener on the other side.. they use lawn fertiliser there :P  

    I've no idea about the typos tho?
      November 10, 2016 2:53 PM MST
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  • I went a little overboard with my drinks at Happy Hour. 
      November 10, 2016 4:10 PM MST
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  • 1523
    So they say.
      November 10, 2016 6:02 PM MST
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  • Being satisfied with the status quo and working on own happiness makes one forget to look what other people have...Thanks for your answer!
      November 11, 2016 8:37 AM MST
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  • Many things look better at a distance than they do on closer inspection -
    though it may depend on what you're hoping to find.
      November 10, 2016 8:32 PM MST
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  • I like your answer, hartfire. Very true.
      November 11, 2016 8:34 AM MST
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  • Thank you. )
    It was a saying that used to perplex me as a small child. I would look and see, yes, it is greener over there than here. Then I'd go that spot over there, look back, and where I just was looked greener, and where I now was looked just like where I was before.
    Later I learned how to draw. The illusion of greener in the distance is due to a shift of viewpoint. In the distance, the angle of our vision is lower and so we see the little green blades of grass overlapping, creating a solid mass of green. As our feet we look down at a perpendicular angle, seeing the ground between the blades, along with little bits of deadgrass or pale stolons - a patchwork of earth colors amid the green. Both points of view are aspects of the truth.
    So the metaphor, "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence," has a lifetime of lessons to teach us. I'm still learning them. :-/
      November 11, 2016 1:14 PM MST
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  • Thanks, this lesson was very useful.... I never thought of it that way. I am glad I asked that simple question!
      November 11, 2016 3:41 PM MST
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  • 3934
    Yes...and no.

    There is a well-documented phenomenon in psychology known as hedonic adaptation. In simple terms, things which initially seem new, exciting, and extraordinary become, over time, familiar, mundane, and ordinary. Hence, we start looking for the new new thing which will reignite the heightened state of arousal the previous new thing brought us. The grass on the other side of the fence holds that promise much more than the familiar boring grass on our own side.

    Hedonic adaptation does NOT necessarlly apply to situations where we are either uncertain what the new new thing will bring, or we have reason to believe the new new thing might be negative. Under those conditions, people tend to prefer the familiar and shy away from novelty. So, if you think the neighbor's green grass is full of snakes, you might convince yourself your own parched brownish lawn is actually more aesthetically pleasing than the hideous snake-camouflaging green of the lawn over the fence.
      November 11, 2016 1:31 PM MST
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  • My sincere Thank You for your answer, OldSchool, I just imagined sitting with you somewhere with a glass of wine and discussing these topics. Catching comments like this lifts me up !!!!
      November 11, 2016 3:47 PM MST
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  • 3934
    @Whitehair -- Thanks for the compliment. Actually, I don't drink wine and I tend to be this geeky even without the aid of GABA receptor agonists (that's "alcohol" to non-geeks...;-D...) This post was edited by OldSchoolTheSKOSlives at November 11, 2016 4:03 PM MST
      November 11, 2016 3:57 PM MST
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  • Being a little bit geeky once in a while is a tool for staying young, with or without spirits....
      November 11, 2016 4:19 PM MST
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  • According to one of my idols,  Erma Bombeck, the grass is always greener over the septic tank.  :)
      November 11, 2016 2:14 PM MST
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  • Hahaha - thanks for the fun!
      November 11, 2016 3:48 PM MST
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