Discussion»Questions»Relationships» Remembering back to before your marriage or current relationship (or absence of one,) who was the partner you loved most?
Do you get out and socialise? Are you a member of classes, clubs or a spiritual group which share similar activities and interests? Looking back over my life, I believe it really helps to be proactive when looking for a life partner. If you're in a place where you can frequently meet the same people, it gives you a chance to get to know each other.
I never had a longtime relationship before I met Mrs Didge. A few dates, a few short time girlfriends, but nothing I'd call a relationship. I remember a couple of them fondly but she's been my constant since 1958.
Humour goes a long way towards a successful marriage. Congratulations. Actually, in your case, that probably means it would have worked out well no matter who you married.
I am into teaching, I dunno,most Indian marriages are stable, maybe because marrige is considered very sacred and couples do their best to make it a success, families of both sides are involved,they too play a vital role in keeping the couple together, maybe Indians are still orthodox in their belief in marriage, because even in this era, step children,step father,step mother is very uncommon, you know hartfire,all this might seem strange to western society but that's how India still is;))
That he went away. LMAO Seriously, though, the ones that stick around always become irritating, don't they? When a relationship never gets a chance to develop into mutual disdain because it ends prematurely, it can remain unblemished for eternity. *sighs*
Ari and I have achieved a good rapport. He's my best friend and, after 35 years, knows me better than anyone else. Yes, we have mutually irritating habits, but we've managed to find ways of modifying them or keeping them out of each other's way - mostly. Some things just need acceptance. We have blemishes and flaws, but not disdain. Getting to this point has taken a huge amount of work over the years, and its still a work in progress.
I hope you find someone with whom you can create the kind of relationship that fulfils your needs for love. You seem like a great person to me, JA, so surely it can't be too far away.
Thank you. We're not so adorable when we trip up and occasionally fall back into old ways. Then we have the silliest arguments that sound like a pair of three year olds having a temper tantrum. We have been thinking about developing it into a comedy act to perform at the local Cabaret 360 in mid-Winter this year.
This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at January 16, 2017 7:14 PM MST
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