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how to become productive when u feel a restriction

how to be productivd ...


i have a lot of potential ..


but ifeel .. because i was arrested in May 2016 ... and since then they made a police file on me with a picture


and since then i feel like its not like before ...

i think now the police has a picture of me , and they can always refer to that


but i dont feel the vibe to make progress and do great things ... just because of that



if the police would delete my file or my picture, it would be like before and i know everything will e grrat and all that...




in the same time
maybe i could try going to another country, cuz there they wont have any picture of me and i know i can succeed . 




but it sucks.


Posted - January 19, 2017

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  • At the risk of getting attacked again, and some would say I shouldn't bother replying. .I would just say that despite what you have said about me and that you believe I am unkind, (that wasn't quite the word you used) I actually do feel for you and actually do care about you.. Believe it or not my sometimes straight talking words are because I strongly feel that what you need to do is stop blaming everyone else for your problems, i.e in this case you are blaming the police, and start facing up to the realities and your own part in the difficulties you are facing. 

    On this front, I say, as I have before.. that your insistence upon believing that you should go to another country and then it will all be ok - is unrealistic. I and others have said this before.. kindly and then sometimes less kindly. but you don't appear to listen. I am afraid, and this IS a 100% fact, that no other country would want you or welcome you. No  country is going to take a Canadian,  a resident in a country where you have relatively good social care and benefits, and give you hand outs* in return for nothing.. No country needs to feed another mouth for free.. That's just how it is.. In order to get into another country, as I have said before, you need skills, and/or money... you need to be able to prove, as an entry requirement that you can support yourself, as in you have fairly substantial savings or that you have specialised skills that they have a shortage of..  

    It's just the way it is and my concern is that while dreaming is harmless usually, in some cases it can prevent one from dealing with, or facing up to the problems and realities that one has before them.. in other words, one should sort out and deal with the problems before you even attempt to move on.. running away won't happen and won't solve anything..

    I will understand if you don't want my advice but it's said with the best intent. 
      January 19, 2017 10:48 AM MST
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  • 1128
    ^^^^^^^^^^THIS^^^^^^^^^^^^
      January 19, 2017 10:54 AM MST
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  • 19937
    I was reluctant to respond to this poster because I would have said something very similar to what you posted and decided to just let it alone.  There are some people who honestly want help and when you offer good advice, they take it and improve their lot in life.  Then there are those who just live life in their own little pity party.  I leave it up to you to decide which is the case here. 
      January 19, 2017 12:58 PM MST
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  • 1128
    I'm not really familiar with your situation EXCEPT for what you post on here.  TBH the above response was spot on! Sometimes 'tough love' is mistaken for 'not caring' etc etc.

    I have 4 adult children who have had tough love shown to them by me. Did it make my children uncomfortable??  Yes, it did. Did it help them?  Why yes it did that too.  In the end my children KNOW that it is up to THEM NOT ME to make choices in life that will affect their future. I made MY mistakes and learned from them. I could use many many excuses for NOT being successful in life.  However it would only be an excuse and NOT a reason to do my best.  

    My mom told me once "Don't cry because you can't run fast....until you stand next to the person with NO legs."  In other words "Don't feel sorry for yourself because you are luckier than many others
    This post was edited by SA (SuperA) at January 19, 2017 9:23 PM MST
      January 19, 2017 11:05 AM MST
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  • 7792
    Restrictions placed on yourself or by other people? Regardless, screw restrictions and do what you have to do to better yourself.
      January 19, 2017 11:07 AM MST
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  • 2960
    There are tons of rad free YouTube videos to help you level up and life hack!
      January 19, 2017 11:14 AM MST
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