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RosieG

Do you always think the best of those you like and the worst of those you dis? Do you think about it or is it an automatic reaction? Why?

Posted - February 28, 2017
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  • 6124
    Good morning Rose.

    I always think the best of everyone until they do something that proves me wrong.  It's automatic.  Just my nature.
      February 28, 2017 8:54 AM MST
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  • 113301
    I'm  a patsy too. Exactly like you. No disrespect intended Harry. Thank you for your reply and Happy Tuesday! :)
      February 28, 2017 10:39 AM MST
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  • 7792
    That's exactly how I seem to be and it's an automatic reaction for me. If someone treats me bad, I'll only remember that part about them. The same for people who treats me with respect.
      February 28, 2017 8:55 AM MST
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  • 113301
    Well it is best for me to cut people off THE FIRST TIME they are rude. Give them more chances and guess what? THEY ARE STILL RUDE. But I keep forgetting. I keep hoping  they have grown up somewhat and figured out that being civil is not a bad thing when you disagree. Alas. Alack. It doesn't seem to work that way! Thank you for your reply Zack and Happy Tuesday! :)
      February 28, 2017 10:41 AM MST
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  • Dear RosieG,

    Oh yes ... I DO that...it's the confirmation bias...and yes I think about it, and try my best to correct for it.
    This from PSYCHOLOGY TODAY blog...

    "Once we have formed a view, we embrace information that confirms that view while ignoring, or rejecting, information that casts doubt on it...We pick out those bits of data that make us feel good because they confirm our prejudices. Thus, we may become prisoners of our assumptions."
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/science-choice/201504/what-is-confirmation-bias This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at February 28, 2017 10:36 AM MST
      February 28, 2017 10:10 AM MST
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  • 113301
    If the best of us are prey to that what does that say about the worst of us? Are we doomed? Thank you for your reply Virginia and Happy Tuesday! :) This post was edited by RosieG at February 28, 2017 10:38 AM MST
      February 28, 2017 10:35 AM MST
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  • Hi Rosie!
    Not sure, here, maybe it says that we are all human...?
    Appreciate the thoughtful Q.
      February 28, 2017 10:44 AM MST
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  • 3375
    I think this is normal for most people.  It would be more self destructive to be wary of all the people we like and blissfully blind to the people we don't like.
      February 28, 2017 10:17 AM MST
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  • 113301
    Here's the irony of that PeaPod. Sometimes the people we like are the ones who harm us and the people we don't don't. There is no protection against that. Thank you for your reply and Happy Tuesday! :)
      February 28, 2017 10:37 AM MST
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  • 3375
    I completely get where you are coming from.  I think we may try "harder" with people that we want to like.  I have caught myself doing this more than once in life.

    Happy Tuesday Rosie!
      February 28, 2017 11:08 AM MST
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  • 3191
    Nope.  Who I find likeable may not necessarily reflect their goodness as a person, and those that grate me the wrong way may actually be very good people.  I just accept people for what they are.  
      February 28, 2017 10:39 AM MST
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