*butts in* Wings and a dose of realism. "Life is going to kick your butt and you won't be the best at everything, but you'll never be the best at anything or learn your passions unless you're willing to try, and fail, and then try some more." That's my motto with my kids.
Totally agree... and to our friend Evil Bunny... I still believe that when I say that to my kids it's the truth.. I still believe that we can do whatever we set our mind to... my kids could be anything... the world is their oyster.. they can be an astronaut or a lorry driver.. and the fun part is seeing how their path and journey will go.
Not everyone can be anything. That's so inherently false. Not everyone has the potential to play in the NBA. Not everyone has the potential to be a successful astrophysicist. Genes matter.
well ok revise that then.. MY kids can do anything they want.. lol .. the point is they can do anything they want... the determiner is what they want.. my kids could certainly be an astrophysicist, indeed my younger son is sorta dating a lovely young lady who is studying to be just that :)
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It seems to me to be the type of thing a frustrated parent unthinkingly blurts out. It is a catharsis. But maybe the parent should have reflected more before becoming a parent.
Hmm that's pretty strong don't you feel? I've said it to my youngest child several times.. she's said it to me, as in I bet you hope I have a daughter just like me one day... It's not damaged her in any way and I am not a bad parent for saying it.. there's whole decades of experiences and things I've said that go into raising my kids... one comment like this really isn't a big deal.. I promise you.
ahh right, I understand and sorry to have stirred that up for you.. If it helps my mother was very, very abusive - she was someone who truly didn't like children, or not me at any rate.. so yea I know what you mean..It's perhaps one of the reasons I try to be positive with my own kids... I believe that anything is possible and I believe in them totally.
In a more general way I often wonder how many parents, after some years of family life, were they able to time travel and undo having a family would they?
Good point... I know my mother didn't want me and felt I ruined her life... I cannot help thinking her life would have been happier without me in it.... but as for me,,,,I wouldn't change it... it is what it is.... it made me what I am .. i have more, rather than less compassion for others suffering...it made me stronger... My daughter asked me the other day had I ever regretted having her... I said no, never, and I meant it
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