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What should have I done?

My Mom let me borrow her car for the past few weeks. My father-in-law wanted to borrow it and let my husband know. I said if he wants to use it, he'll have to directly ask my mother. They didn't want to and want me to intercede. I didn't want to because I knew my Mom won't be happy about it. So, now there are a lot of hurt feelings involved. But, it's not my car to begin with. I can't let them use something I don't own. Am I really the bad guy here? :/

Posted - June 24, 2016
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  • 2515
    No.
    1. It's not your car.
    2. Your mom lent it you you and no one else, not even your husband.
    3. Tell them you can't do it. Plain and simple.
    4. You can't do anything about their feelings. They choose to feel hurt.
    5. Besides, your husband should really take care of the problem. They are his parents.
      June 24, 2016 6:33 PM MDT
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  • 46117

    Your family is a bunch of manipulating idiots.

    You said NO.  That is that. Tell them to piss off.  Seriously. They don't care about you and your word to your mom? Tell them to stuff it. 

      June 24, 2016 6:41 PM MDT
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  • 12
    Thank you, Marguerite. I needed to hear that.
      June 24, 2016 6:43 PM MDT
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  • 12
    It really didn't feel right to let them use it without letting my Mom know. Thanks, Sharonna.
      June 24, 2016 6:48 PM MDT
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  • 34276
    No. You should not loan a car that is not yours.

    Just tell them that. If they insist on wanting to borrow it, explain that they must ask your Mom first.

    I mean what happens if they borrow it with out permission and it gets wrecked. That would really create hard feelings all the way around.
      June 24, 2016 7:03 PM MDT
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  • 7939

    I agree with the other responses. It wasn't yours to lend out. If it was me, I'd be ticked that you lent my car to someone else when I was entrusting you with it. How would they feel if the shoe was on the other foot? What if it was something of theirs being lent to your mom? I know some people are ok with that, but wit something like a car? Nun uh. You were in the right.

      June 24, 2016 7:12 PM MDT
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  • I agree with you .. is not yours to lend .. I would have handled it a little bit different though. .. rather than getting then Rio ask I would have asked mom. .. When she said no then that's what you tell them ... It can be difficultly but you did the right thing :)
      June 24, 2016 8:19 PM MDT
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  • 17596

    No, do not loan your mother's car out..  Give your mother her car back.   Get yourself your own car.  You are a married woman;; time to adult.

      June 24, 2016 8:40 PM MDT
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  • 359

    Nope your not the bad guy here.. You have dealt with the situation in the correct manor..

    Well done...

      June 24, 2016 10:21 PM MDT
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  • 22891

    exactly what you just did, telling them to ask your mom

      June 25, 2016 6:44 PM MDT
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  • 12

    Thanks for the comment everyone.

      June 25, 2016 8:02 PM MDT
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