Do you think, A. 'Just a night to have some fun..', B. 'I hope this is the one...', C. I hope I can start a relationship or D. do you get so nervous and wonder if you are what they want etc, overthink etc.. ?
What is this "date" you speak of?....;-D....
What mind?
Anything other than A means you should just stay home.
Yes, sadly I want to get to A SO much :/ I decline dates simply because I worry what do I truly have to offer, I know rationally I'm kind, giving, humorous. But when I went through years of bad belittling, abuse, and essentially bullied, I felt any trait I 'may' have could be found with anyone else anyway, and in some way I'm just not worthy enough :/ So I've felt and worked with 'D' in this scenario more than anything else, and I don't get to 'A' ... I work each day in some small way to just get to 'A. thank you so much for your reply Sappic.. hugg
You know, that is essentially what I've done my whole life :( Is just remain home... I get so nervous and uptight that some other woman could be better for the guy who asked me out, that somehow in some way, I just really wont' cut it , that I decline and don't get to 'A'... which is what I want more than ANY thing; like everone else does.. go out and not think of any 'future' , just have fun. HOW can one do it ??
I try not to have any expectations, just anew experience.
WW, do you plan on that dissertation making copy? Lol. Kindle perhaps?
You deserve much more than physical aspects of intimacy alone .. while they are wonderful and warm , you need laughter, philosophy, understanding, bonding, and you really deserve that Winged :) Thank you SO much for saying 'take yourself out of your own headspace for a minute.' It clicked to me: wow I am in my mind TOO Much :/ I over think 'will he enjoy me?' 'Do I seem not confident ?' (which is how I feel)..'Does he think I'm gf material?' 'Will he think me too bubbly or not outspoken enough?' all those things run in my mind when a guy asks me out, and I feel so low about many of the answers I decline :( You are so sweet friend, to say don't deprive the world of knowing what a wonderful person I am, that meant a LOT *huggggg. Another issue, a main one, I fear is , 'will he be totally against dating/being with me when he learns of my travel anxiety?' I get nervous as a passenger of cars so don't travel all too often (If I drive I'm generally fine..) I just think, he'll ditch me in like a week or so, and sabotage myself, and my self esteem has really gone down b/c of it ... ugh I'm so sorry to ramble, you were just awesome to take the time to reply in a detailed way.. have a Great night WW :)
Aww *hugggs. I hear you :)
Thanks Winged.... Just seeing your words 'You also have endless potential.' Huge, to me. I have been through so many years of emotional and physical abuse that left me wondering if I'm worth anything, never mind to a man or dating :/ So to see that, it is just so so refreshing. Thank You *hugggggg. I think it is really other way around, in YOU wow Me. :) Ty for replying to me, I want to just do and feel the last part , that 'its fun though' ... YES to that and doing it without anxiety :) 
hehhe :P .. her response does take off the pressure :)
Aww ((HUGS)) I can relate hun!
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