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Once a question is asked anyone can respond. Those who do can communicate with one another. Right?

That is how conversations are born. The Question Asker need not be involved at all. Once a question is asked it can be answered or ignored. Do you really NEED the Asker to respond to you? What is it you want/expect/need besides venting or responding or replying or answering?  Just wondering.

Posted - July 24, 2017

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  • 7126
    When I ask a question, I feel it's polite to thank people for taking the time to answer. Once I've welcomed them to the "party," they're free to mingle as they wish.   
      July 24, 2017 4:05 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    How many questions do you ask each day LO? I ask so many I cannot possibly get back to everyone. Additionally, I do not respond to those who are rude/insulting and attack me. Way back when in the long ago olden days of Answerbag I responded to everyone. Even the rude ones. It finally occurred to me that I was under no obligation to do that so I stopped. Now there are some very fine people who answer questions whose answers I don't read only because I don't have time to get back to them each day. The setup on Answerbag was quite different. The presentation of those who had answered was more accessible. I do the best I can. I don't ignore the polite/kind/thoughtful folks purposely. I do ignore the insulters very purposely. Now I absolutely don't mind disagreement. It isn't disagreeing that is the problem. It's how some disagree. Personal attacks on me don't cut it. Those folks are not worth my time so they don't get it.  Thank  you for your reply! :) This post was edited by RosieG at July 24, 2017 4:35 AM MDT
      July 24, 2017 4:14 AM MDT
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  • 7126
    You're right so far as I should have qualified that rude/insulting/attacking are not worth my time.  

    In terms of asking questions, there's certainly no one who comes close to you. But in general, if I felt that a person was so focused on asking questions that my answers weren't even being read, then I wouldn't consider answering their questions worth my time either. This post was edited by LyricalOne at July 24, 2017 8:22 AM MDT
      July 24, 2017 5:05 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    Thank you for your honesty LO.  As I said I do the best I can. You have to decide if your answers stand on their own and that is enough for you whether or not they are responded to or commented upon. If no one answered my questions I would still ask them. I have no choice. My brain is constantly teeming with questions and they badger me until I ask them and then they're gone and are quickly replaced by others. Similarly in days of yore when I answered questions it didn't bother me if they weren't acknowledged because I did what I wanted to do, answer the question. Feedback is always nice of course providing it is civil. It can lead to many lengthy and substantive conversations from which one can learn things he/she didn't know. But it isn't necessary for me personally. Different strokes. We are whom we are after all. Aren't we?  You certainly have a right to require certain things from people. If  they can't  give you what you need you move on to those who can. I understand that completely. And so it goes. This post was edited by RosieG at July 24, 2017 5:22 AM MDT
      July 24, 2017 5:19 AM MDT
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  • 7126
    I'm just trying to understand here Rosie. No judgment. You ask all these questions but answers aren't important to you. You would continue asking even if no one ever answered. It's not about learning anything from others. So it's just about getting the endless questions out of your head? Is it uncomfortable if you don't?

    Guess I always looked at questions as someone requesting information from me and my giving it to them. That the value was in the answers, as that's what the person was after. But there seems to be another way If looking at it.  
      July 24, 2017 5:41 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    I do it because I have no choice LO. I do like to get intelligent/thoughtful/substantive/logical replies that are pre sented with civility. Cordiality and humor is a plus. I seek certain people out among whom you have been one. For the limited time I have. What I do first thing every morning when I get on Answermug is to delete automatically unread the people who are timewasters and insulters. I do that the very first thing. Then I go back and respond to those I can while I am simultaneously asking the questions that occur. Many of them arise from conversations I have so they are always spontaneous and organic and timely. I keep up with daily politics so those questions are timely too. When I said I have no choice I was serious. The questions usually are about illogical things that people accept or contradictory things or flat-out lies and I have to say something about it. It drives me nuts otherwise. The timewasters/insulters never give me a logical straightforward answer. I ask a question because I have no choice. I am very interested in any logical answers to them and so I focus on responding to the folks whom I already have a good track record with and I know they will do their best to answer the question. Some questions are unanswerable but I ask them anyway. It gives me an insight into how people's minds work. I ask many open-ended questions. That bothers some people. They want all i's dotted all t's crossed and all restrictions in place. They want a template question with boundaries everywhere. That is not my cuppa tea. I don't restrict people. I want to see how they interpret the question. How their mind works. What they do with what they are given. I ask questions that occur to me as they occur to me unedited. I don't reflect upon them first. What I think shows up here in words in real time. Sometimes I find out that the question I asked was far more than I thought. I can tell by the answers I get. If I had more time I would get back to all my dependable regulars but I don't. I can't choose between asking questions and getting back to my dependables because asking questions is what I am driven to do. Getting back to the folks with whom I enjoy talking is what I try to do. I know. TMI.  Apologies!.  
      July 24, 2017 5:55 AM MDT
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  • 7126
    No Rosie, not TMI at all. I really appreciate your taking the time to clarify. As I get older, I'm noticing more and more things I've felt so sure of that weren't at all what they seemed. 
      July 24, 2017 6:19 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    That is very kind of you to tell me LO. I took the time because you are one of the ones I enjoy chatting with and figured I owed you an explanation. Thanks for reading through all of it. As you can see I have no problem articulating my thoughts. Have a great day! :)
      July 24, 2017 6:42 AM MDT
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  • 10980
    Just note that she has answered your question or similar ones and given several different answers. Sometimes, she says she asks them because she wants answers. Often, she becomes irate when someone takes a question in a different direction that what she says. Then she also has objected to people commenting to each other on her threads, when they are only 'supposed' to respond to the person who asked the question. She has claimed to dislike humorous answers, yet above she says she welcomes it. Her point about liking open-ended questions is ludicrous. Your answers must be exactly what she is looking for or you will be chastised. She tells people to ask if they don't understand a question, then berates them for answering a question with a question - you get my drift. I could go on and on, but if you continue to read her comments, you will see for yourself. Supposedly, I am an attacker and insulter whose post go unread, (so I should be able to speak freely on this thread) yet somehow I often get a response from her which is usually rude.  
      July 24, 2017 7:03 AM MDT
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  • 7126
    I'm aware Jane, but this is also a case of reading between the lines.  
      July 24, 2017 7:08 AM MDT
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  • 53482
    Amen!  Telling it like it is. 

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      July 24, 2017 3:02 PM MDT
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  • 7126
    As I get older I've begun to realize that what I thought I'd figured out, especially as it pertains to people, is not always the whole story. There is often far more than the sum of parts I've pieced together.
      July 25, 2017 3:59 AM MDT
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  • 46117
    Do your thing. 
      July 24, 2017 6:24 AM MDT
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  • 22891
    thats true
      July 24, 2017 2:30 PM MDT
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  • But you don't really want conversation. You only want people to agree with you. I've seen too many times where you have attacked people with differing views, and people who do not answer in the exact way you expect. If you really wanted conversation, you would be more tolerant of the answers you get and not belittle those who do not agree. 
      July 25, 2017 3:59 AM MDT
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