Would you ever give advice or some words of wisdom to someone who is about to get married and what would you tell them?

Make sure that the values that successfully married people keep are adhered to no matter what.

This is the most important career choice of your existence.  It can be dismissed out of hand, but if you do that, you will miss out on the most valued lesson life holds.  To be successful at this union, you need to WORK at it continuously.   You need to have the same values.  You need to both want the marriage to work more than anything else.  Marriage is to be considered sacred and when you lose track of that, know that you have lost track of your inner core, your integrity, your vows and you'd better have a damn good reason for breaking this contract.  Once you break this vow casually?  You are never the person of your word that you promised yourself you were.  So, do not get married lightly. 

That's what I would say.

I'd give advice when it was asked for, or if I Knew of some reason that really needed to be discussed and told.. I prefer not to give advice on relationships unless asked for.. it's a very sensitive subject. I advise my daughter all the time.. but then again she asks.. Perhaps that's the best thing you can do... make sure your kids can talk to you, that they know you won't judge.. then they will ask for advice and you can give it.. 

I think it's lovely that you still look back on marriage as a nice thing even despite your bad experience. We all suffer, we all get hurt... but we have to work hard not to let it turn us completely against love, marriage etc..

I agree with others on the matter don't get married lightly. Compatibility is essential and making sure that you both share the same aspirations and viewpoints.  So many people seem to marry people they just shouldn't have :(

I would say "Don't" Especially men. Women are users.

Give your spouse space. Let them look at other peoples beauty. Remember, your married, not dead.

You will not be as in love as you are now always.  In Love travels continually around a big wheel and sometimes you will be ever so in love; other times it will seem, rightly, to be less intense.  

But the love, the true love, this is what you nurture and grow and it will sustain your marriage through thick and thin.  This is the love that survives babies and kids, diarrhea and vomit, surgeries, sicknesses, arguments,  unemployment, addiction, loss of beauty, and on and on and on.    

These are the things I would tell them.  I heard a minister once say these very things  during a wedding ceremony.  I thought, Where would we be if all prospective spouses heard these things at the beginning of their lives with their spouses?

Love is fragile, so keep the romance in the relationship. Remember that there are times to speak and a time to listen. Like many good things in life, it requires teamwork, commitment and dedication, as well as old fashioned hard work. Shoulder to shoulder, side by side, through the love, joy, happiness, disappointment, heartache and reversals of every type. Success isn't guaranteed, it's a goal worked for where a lack of attention almost always causes the marriage to crash and burn. There must be trust. Without honesty and trust, you'll never be able to have the friend and confidante you need. Despite our efforts to rework, rewrite and redefine marriage and its essence, the original formula is still the greatest recipe for happiness. 

The only thing I would suggest is that you memorize your marriage vows.  Marriages frequently fail not because the volws don't work, but because jost people who marry really don't expect to ever have to follow them.  But with the possible exception for spousal absuse issues and addiction issues, they are the key to saving a marriage when necessary.

I fancy one of the reasons that "till death till us part" is in there is because sometimes it can take that long to get where you want to be, but as I dold my son and (about to be) daughter-in-law at the rehersal dinner---it can be hard sometimes, but it is well worth the effort.

Any advice unasked for is rarely appreciated. It may be best to with hold giving any until asked for such input.