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RosieG

Humans have the capacity to have many traits. Of them all which is most important to you? Why?:

I value kindness. Those who are kind don't lie or cheat or betray or harm or undermine or sabotage or insult or attack or collude or conspire or embarrass or humiliate or ridicule. Kindness includes  many superb traits. How we treat one another matters. Of course POLS are fair target for everyone and EXCLUDED. They don't count. They are mostly always out for themselves and don't give a diddly about us. We return the favor by calling them out every time they screw up or screw us. Fair. All  we do is just shine a light on them..spotlight...hotlight...microscope. SIGH

Posted - September 1, 2017
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  • 591
    I would go with empathy and if I have to explain why, then the human race is in a worse state than I thought it was.
      September 1, 2017 5:20 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    I think empathy is the first thing to go Master C.  Or maybe compassion. Sympathy is last and after that you see what we've become. It is most evident just now in Washington, D.C. Specifically the White House. It will get much worse. I wonder if empathy/compassion/sympathy will be a memory one day of what used to be?  Thank you for your reply and Happy Saturday! :)
      September 2, 2017 2:41 AM MDT
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  • 591
    Rosie, I would go as far as to say, it is not possible to feel either compassion or sympathy without having empathy.
      September 2, 2017 4:48 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    I shall have to think about that Master C. Here's what the words mean to me off the top of my head right now. On a Star Trek long-episode there was an EMPATH. She literally felt what others felt  from joy to pain to despair. Felt it keenly and deeply physically, mentally and emotionally. I don't know if that is possible in the real world. Compassion means to me that you set aside your previous prejudices and forgive those who might have hurt you especially if they are going through hard times. Take John McCain for example. He is currently fighting brain cancer and though some of his views are anathema to me I set that aside because what he going through is a life-or-death struggle and deserves absence of rancor. Sympathy is what you feel for someone who has suffered the loss of a loved one. You've been there so you know what that feels like. But you don't actually feel those emotions. You understand them but you don't feel them. Thank you for your reply. I have some thinking to do thanks to you! :)  That makes me happy! :)
      September 2, 2017 5:12 AM MDT
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  • 11013
    For me, kindness also includes letting other people participate; giving them a chance to speak and not hogging the floor; not ignoring what they have to say just because I don't agree; not assuming that they are insulting or attacking me if their views are different or if they ask a question to clarify what I mean. Kindness may be easier for some people when they are dealing face-to-face, but it should also be practiced in an on-line setting such as this one.
      September 1, 2017 7:03 AM MDT
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  • 53509

    So "treat all humans as human except the ones you have decided should not be treated as human".  That's your angle?  So much for labeling oneself  as a kind person. 
     
      September 1, 2017 7:16 AM MDT
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  • 13071
    Reason. It keeps from letting our emotions from getting the best of us.
      September 1, 2017 7:24 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    Reason is destroyed completely by intense emotion..especially hate.  Evidence of this is shown  daily in the White House and the Trump et al dynasty.  They are incapable of reason because  they hate so thoroughly. Sadly. Thank you for your reply cp and Happy Saturday to thee! :)
      September 2, 2017 2:44 AM MDT
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  • 6124
    People who are kind can also lie, cheat, betray, harm,... at times.  We aren't one dimensional, we aren't perfect.  I do know people who are generally unkind who don't lie, cheat,.. they just tell it like it is.  The guy who does my small engine repairs is like that.  I really like him!  He's grumpy and hates people but he doesn't cheat me and is always straightforward with me.  

    Yes, "how we treat one another matters."   When people get attacked for stating their opinion, that's a problem isn't it?  It makes many of us avoid the poster when that happens.   Some of us will resent them for it.  I don't resent anyone here but I do get tired of having to be careful about what I say and how I say it to certain people.  If someone posts a question, I believe they are looking for an honest exchange of opinions and a good discussion OR, just having some playful fun.   I don't like avoiding certain people's questions but I find myself doing so because I don't want to get into an argument, or made to feel like my POV isn't a valid one.  I would rather someone exchange ideas with me in a positive way and get me to change my stance.  I also expect others to be open minded and extend me the same courtesy.

      September 1, 2017 7:27 AM MDT
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  • 113301
     A person who is truly kind does NOT lie cheat betray harm. EVER. So I don't buy your argument. Anyone can be "kind" at any tine for any reason. That is just an act to get something. A truly kind person is not wired to be all those other things you list.  I totally disagree with thee but so what? Who cares? What does it matter? Thank you for your reply and Happy Saturday. Semantics will always be a thorn in our sides. Words mean different things to different people.  Simple as that.
      September 2, 2017 2:39 AM MDT
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  • 6124
    Maybe words mean different things to different people but I think this has more to do with differing life experiences.  Unfortunately, I believe it's a stretch to say a truly kind person does not lie, etc... ever.  So, we'll just have to agree to disagree once again Rosie.  
      September 2, 2017 6:44 AM MDT
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