im very shy/ quiet/ introvert. I have 0 self confidence and think everyone is talking about me or thinking that there is something wrong with me. I joined Amug a couple months ago never being on a social media site before, looking for a new experience, but was nervous to join in on the Q and A, I met some great friends and we sent messages back and forth and tried to put myself out there and was completely shot down by one REALLY mean person on Amug, they created a whole question centered around me and used my name. It was a horrible thing to do to someone. So, I blended back in and didn't want to participate on this site if people were going to be that hateful. It took a little while for me to join in on the Q and A again, so for me, its a comfort issue, if i feel comfortable in the situation and the people im with ill be more open, if its a new situation or group of people its awkward and I want to blend in.
There are some very crappy mean cruel people in the world ally. I'm really sorry that you encountered one or more of them here. Just be grateful you are not one of them. Imagine going through life being that kind of person? There are a lot more very fine people here. I just ignore/avoid the crappers. I've encountered them too...some of them migrated here from Answerbag where I was until it folded. Do not read anything they post EVER. That way they have no effect on you. They don't exist. When you see the moniker of a crapper train yourself to only read those from people you know will be polite. Disagreeing with folks is fine. Insulting them and attacking them is not. Remember you are in control here. YOU are the one who chooses with whom you will spend some time.People cannot force themselves upon you unless you allow them to do so. Don't. I've known some very nice people who were driven away from Answerbag and Answermug by the mean cruel crappers. Don't be one of them. Thank you for your sincere and really sad response. I know exactly how you feel. I call it "vibes". Some people give off hostile vibes. You don't need them in your life. Some folks are cordial and welcoming and worth your time. Stick to those and you will do just fine. Happy First Day of Autumn Friday in the USA! :)
This post was edited by RosieG at September 27, 2017 11:09 AM MDT
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