Has self-pity always been socially acceptable?

Too many snowflakes in the world. They all need to "suck it up butter cup". Unless it's me having a bad day , then FML:( and buy me a pony so I can feel better :/

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To some not socially acceptable but there are those who genuinely have empathy and others who like the chance to look down on someone who feels sorry for themselves. They relish the moment.

That's a very good question. I'll have to give it some thought. But I've definitely noticed the same thing.

People taking every available opportunity to whine about the same problem to anyone who'll listen.



This post was edited by LyricalOne at September 29, 2017 7:10 PM MDT

Self-pity is hated just as much as people hate football players kneeling during the National Anthem.

JA, just my opinion but, I think it's always been this way.  In our own RL social circles, we can edit out anyone that doesn't fit in with our personal friendship preferences.  With the advent of social media, our "friend" base has increased to a much larger magnitude so, it appears to us as if there is more FML occurring.  

My grandmother used to pull that "oh woe is me" crapola.  I loved her dearly but I had to listen to it my entire life growing up.   It made me keenly aware of the fact that I don't want to be labeled a complainer and whiner with my friends.  When I'm going through something, I have a tendency to keep that crap to myself, or talk about it with a therapist. 



 

Its apparently acceptable enough that people still do it. It's a way to generate attention for oneself (or worse, sympathy) without really doing anything. Any press is better than none. 

I just see small-minded people who aren't interested in real solutions or making an effort, only in winning pity to affirm their perceptions of misfortune. Boohoo. Poor little martyrs.   

There is certainly nothing new in this. This post was edited by Don Barzini at September 26, 2017 10:39 PM MDT

Someone asked if I'd ever been walked on and I said yes, a few times.  Is that self pity?  I asked once on Experience Project if people preferred friends who were up beat all the time or friends who share their problems.  It was unanimous. People who admit they have problems and talk about them are more real. This post was edited by CallMeIshmael at September 29, 2017 7:11 PM MDT