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How important is maintaining eye contact during a conversation? I have had instances where people say the most profound things without it.

Posted - October 21, 2017

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  • 17564
    Very important.  People who don't look you in the eye during conversation are either lying, autistic, or have a seriously bad habit  or personality issue that I, likely, will address unless I'm talking to a stranger, in which case the person with the wandering eyes would be considered untrustworthy.


    This post was edited by Thriftymaid at October 24, 2017 7:16 PM MDT
      October 21, 2017 5:32 PM MDT
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  • 13071
    Very important. I feel left out of the conversation when eye contact isnt present in it. Usually people that are insecure with themselves or have a different agenda than a conversation with you are the ones who avoid eye contact. If im having a conversation with someone who doesnt think Im important enough to look me in the eye, my conversation with them is very short indeed. 
      October 21, 2017 5:40 PM MDT
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  • 2327
    Not important to me at all. And that's because I'm not very good at maintaining it myself. I find eyes to be distracting, and I can concentrate on the topic and understand my co-talker better when not looking into them. 
      October 21, 2017 8:05 PM MDT
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  • 23410
    Bingo. Amen. Me, too.
    And people still seem to have found that I can be truthful and trustworthy.
    I've heard that keeping eye contact is so very important my whole life -- I've tried to do it but I often understand and communicate more effectively if I'm not stuck seeing my reflection in someone else's pupils.
    :) This post was edited by WelbyQuentin at October 25, 2017 8:29 PM MDT
      October 22, 2017 7:22 PM MDT
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  • 13071
    Stuck seeing my reflection in someone elses pupils.

    I love it. LOL :D

      October 24, 2017 7:10 PM MDT
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  • 23410
    Ha, thanks carbonproduct! That's sort of poetic how I wrote that, once I read it again, ha!
    :)

    I just now read all of the posted answers more closely - - they're all interesting to me.
    :)
      October 24, 2017 7:19 PM MDT
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  • 2327
    You sound just like me, Welby. I bet we could have a great conversation together in person. And that's the most important part...the words. :)
      October 25, 2017 8:31 PM MDT
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  • 23410
    Definitely. Another "Bingo, Amen" from me to you, righty1 - Sgt at ARMS!
    :)
      October 26, 2017 3:55 PM MDT
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  • 5808
         Of course we know it is not necessary for a conversation
    to take place...but... the real closeness of the feeling
    of the conversation
    is deepened where there is eye contact

      October 21, 2017 9:16 PM MDT
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  • 2500
    I think that the late, great Marty Feldman had issues doing that. And then there's talking to someone on the phone . . . 
      October 21, 2017 11:54 PM MDT
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  • 3191
    It is not so much maintaining as making eye contact.  If someone refuses to or avoids making eye contact, it makes one think what they say is not something they are willing to stand behind.

    As always...JMHO
      October 22, 2017 12:45 AM MDT
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  • 1713
    I don't think it's important, but that's because it just makes me uncomfortable and I'm incapable of making eye contact. It's not because I'm a liar or evil or anything. I just have social anxiety problems.
      October 22, 2017 6:17 AM MDT
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  • 23410
    I can relate a lot.
    :)
      October 22, 2017 7:27 PM MDT
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  • 22891
    depends on what youre talking about
      October 22, 2017 4:00 PM MDT
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