I respectfully disagree.
Some people are too stupid to learn from pain, whatever the type. Instead, they blame others for it.
I know people who won't see a doctor, yet constantly complain about their ailments.
And there's the many examples of people who live in poverty, but instead of helping themselves or their children get an education to get better jobs and move out of poverty - they complain about "the man" keeping them down, and expect others to "do something" for them.
Emotional pain? There are thousands of people who live in abusive relationships, who refuse to leave because "I can change him/her".