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Do you talk to people in real life the same way you talk to people online? Why/ why not and how are you different?

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Posted - July 29, 2016

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  • 676

      July 30, 2016 12:17 AM MDT
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  • 53509

    My voice is a little deeper, that's the only difference.

      July 30, 2016 12:22 AM MDT
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  • 99

    Pretty much,the main difference being I'm terser online because of typos and spelling errors . Maybe a good thing,all in all! ;)

      July 30, 2016 12:25 AM MDT
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  • 2758

    Generally yes.  I try to show everyone the same respect I would show my grandparents.

    Sometimes, though, that doesn't seem to be enough.  The world seems to have grown so hostile today. Not so much for the reasons we might suspect, but for daring to say ANYTHING which might be offensive to someone.

      July 30, 2016 12:37 AM MDT
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  • 676

    Hi booker, lovely to see you around.

      July 30, 2016 12:44 AM MDT
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  • When using a phone to tap out messages brevity becomes the norm .
      July 30, 2016 1:27 AM MDT
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  • Just be you .. I'm sure that's more than adequate
      July 30, 2016 1:29 AM MDT
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  • 489
    I'm the same in real life.. Maybe a little more reserved, but still the same.
      July 30, 2016 1:42 AM MDT
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  • 17261
    I'm no different. I have the same sincerity and compassion no matter I'm online or offline. The topics I discuss might be varying to some degree.

    A general issue with online forums is that we don't decide who we want to be surrounded by, and who will take part and reply on our posts/comments. I will avoid certain people I perceive toxic, and this won't be fully possible online.
      July 30, 2016 1:49 AM MDT
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  • 17261
    :-)
      July 30, 2016 2:57 AM MDT
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  • 7939

    I think a lot of people are that way, especially nowadays that we're exposed less and less to social situations. From what I've read, it just takes a whole lot of baby steps to come out of it. I'm not sure I'm personally ready for that. I hear there are people out there. People. D:

      July 30, 2016 3:06 AM MDT
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  • 7939

    Except for that time we did the undercover job in LA. :p

      July 30, 2016 3:08 AM MDT
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  • 7939

      July 30, 2016 3:08 AM MDT
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  • 7939

    I hope you're respectful to your grandparents. ;)

      July 30, 2016 3:09 AM MDT
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  • 7939

    True. You seem to be able to convey much with few words, though. :)

      July 30, 2016 3:10 AM MDT
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  • 7939

    You always seemed pretty genuine to me. :)

      July 30, 2016 3:11 AM MDT
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  • 17261
    *like*
      July 30, 2016 3:12 AM MDT
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  • 7939

    Hmm... for the sake of playing devil's advocate, do we really get to choose? Most of us have jobs with coworkers and customers/ clients who aren't always fun to be around. We have family members who can be challenging, too.

    I do see you as being the genuine you here, though.

      July 30, 2016 3:13 AM MDT
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  • 17261
    My reply might have been a bit black and white. There are of course shades of grey in between. We don't choose in every aspect. Just like you say there will be situations where we can be "forced" into situations. Usually though they will be more controlled by a set of social rules. I say usually as I know, and have been in situations where it wasn't the case. I do however see a difference in these and being a member of for instance this community.

    Work - we do it for a living
    Family - they are given to us
    Friends and social activities - it is a choice

    As goes for social activities; I can choose who among a group of people I want to discuss a book with offline/I cannot online unless I take it into private chat. This one just as an example as the same goes for a lot of different/other stuff/topics. The social rules and acceptance are different offline and online. We don't see the concentrated form of hatred (worst cases) in any other social gathering (don't count in the rallies including eventual political conventions) like inside a social media.

    I meet toxic people offline in my work. The difference is, that I can keep it professional and stick to the topic we have to be mutual around, and avoid them the rest of the time. I have toxic family members. I can stay away from (avoid) them when we meet in social gatherings, after I said the usual "hi, how are you" stuff. I cannot do the same with toxic people in an online community as they can enter my sphere, even if I don't invite them.

    There is a difference offline and online in my opinion.
      July 30, 2016 3:39 AM MDT
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  • 7939

    Fair enough. Yes, the conversations we have tend to strip away the layers. They're not professional and curt conversations. They get to the heart of things. 

      July 30, 2016 3:46 AM MDT
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  • 7939

    I hear ya. I have a well-worn delete key, too.

      July 30, 2016 3:47 AM MDT
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  • 17261
    The heart can be hard recognisable in some cases, or at least it goes for the empathy.
      July 30, 2016 3:55 AM MDT
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  • 53509
    It was that tight girdle you made me wear. I will admit, however, that you were right to have me shave off my moustache; no amount of makeup would have covered it enough to fool them. I was convincing as a lesbian, wasn't I?
    ~
      July 30, 2016 7:01 AM MDT
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  • 44617

    No I don't. People here can't hurt me so I don't have to be so restricted in what I say.

      July 30, 2016 8:46 AM MDT
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