I have NEVER done it and never would. I have contempt for those who do. It happened to me only once many years ago. My kid kept pushing and pushing and I finally pushed back and called him on it. He said he wanted to see how much I would take before I pushed back. He did it only once. I was extremely disappointed in him for that. Folks who do that lack confidence in themselves and trust in others and they have very big holes within them that can never be filled. Folks who put up with that are going to get a lifetime of misery. Not my cuppa tea. Thank you for your reply Sharon.
No, but I do like to see if they really care about me. I like if a woman will do little things to prove that I am very important to her. Like if we had an argument and I had to be at work I would keep talking to her and be a little late for work if I had to because she was more important to me than anything else. I consciously watch if I am really a priority to her or not? In that way I guess I do push the boundaries of a relationship sometimes.
So you are always testing them then? That means you lack confidence in yourself and trust in them which is sad. I have never done that nor would I. I also have never set people up or tracked them to see if they were actually where they said they would be. I have never opened someone's mail, eavesdropped on conversations, looked in pockets or drawers or cupboards or cabinets. I am curious but I am not nosy and I don't snoop. I don't tolerate my space being invaded by such goings on so I would NEVER do that for any reason to anyone. I'm just not wired that way. Years ago my son kept pushing me and testing me and I called him on it. He admitted that he just wanted to see how much I would take before I pushed back. He never did it again. I was very disappointed that he did it even once. Just my opinion. Living with someone who is always testing me is not my cuppa tea. I wouldn't stand for it. Thank you for your reply Truthseeker. Different strokes.
This post was edited by RosieG at December 8, 2017 11:30 AM MST
I'm like you in that I never eavesdropped on my ex or questioned her whereabouts or distrusted her at all. It was the total opposite really. I had family members telling me that she was seen with another man or my father even told me that he had seen her. I would confront her immediately and she could look me right in the eyes and lie right to my face. I knew that if I wanted to have a relationship I would have to trust her so I believed her over my own family. I gave her too much trust honestly and that's how she managed to take advantage of me for so long. I really got burned for trusting someone blindly who had never earned my trust.
The testing thing is more because my ex didn't value me as much as I valued her. If we were discussing something very important and I was upset she would walk out the door in the middle of the conversation if she had somewhere else to be or she would answer the phone and start talking to someone as if I didn't exist. Her money and her job and friends were ways more important to her than me or our child even. It was really frustrating and confusing to be in that relationship for so long. That to me is why now I am conscious of whether or not a woman makes me a priority and whether or not she has actually earned my trust. I'm just trying to learn from my past and make sure that I don't waste my time on people who don't really love me. You know?
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