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RosieG

Years ago I remember being vulnerable and hurt by people. I outgrew it fortunately. Now no one gets to me. Did you outgrow it too?

Posted - December 9, 2017
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  • 46117

    Come on.  You are the most touchy and vulnerable person on here.

    YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME.

    Telling yourself you are like this masterful mind controller, is only your ego telling you that you are in control
    You may think you are overcoming some feeling by shutting it out and trying to be proud of the fact that you are in control, but you cannot even get a good night's sleep. 

    You control nothing when you cannot sleep at night, you are not immune to suffering when you come on here and say what you say.  You are a tormented soul, Rosie.  I know.  I have been in this situation many, many times.  When my mind is restless and my soul is crying, I used to drink to erase the pain.  That was 3 decades ago.  To me that is not so long ago.  It is always on my mind how horrid I used to feel and still do all the time here and there.  That is part of life.  We all suffer and no one is immune to everything and everyone that attacks our sensibilities. 

    What matters is how we accept the lesson.  If someone bugs me, I cannot say, "I DO NOT CARE" when that is a big fat lie.  I care.  Now, what do I do about it?  I look and see why I am upset.  I am not ashamed of the fact that someone got to me.  I do not defend my feelings by blocking them out and making myself say it is not so.  I find out why I am so hurt.  Then I work on me.  IF I have people attacking me, I feel I have drawn that to me for a reason.  So I can grow and figure out what I am doing to cause this upset.  When you ignore pain, you die.  The pain doesn't subside.  When you have a disease, you don't ignore it. 

    Pain is an indication of a potential  disease of the soul  It is a warning sign anyway.  Don't hate it and be ashamed of it. Embrace it as a lesson.  We are all in this human condition.  Not just you.  We UNDERSTAND.  We all really do.

    The thing is, I own it and try and do something about it.  I don't hide and resent and act like I am all on top of it.  That fools no one.  Telling everyone how you want them to think that you think?  If you were really this way, this pillar of emotional fortitude, you would not have to keep trying to convince us.  We would see that. 

    I don't sit there and deny what I am really feeling.  If I am hurt by words, I think about it and then laugh when I realize that my ego is running the show and not what matters. 

    I really admire you, but I also think you have things about you that are causing you much consternation and you refuse to see why.  You think by talking and controlling, that fixes it.

    What you say, does not convince, when you don't behave in the same manner.

      December 9, 2017 9:26 AM MST
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  • 113301
    You think you know me Sharon. You don't and apparently never will. Thank you for your reply and Happy Sunday.
      December 10, 2017 2:27 AM MST
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  • 44799
    For the most part. But my wife can get to me. She said something eight years ago that I will take to my grave.
      December 9, 2017 9:41 AM MST
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  • 113301
    I have one like that too. Fortunately Jim has never once said anything so hurtful. Now we've been together 20 years. I think you know I'm 80. There's still time for it but I doubt it will ever rise to that height or fall to that depth. Letting hurtful things go is easier said than done. Here's hoping one day you will let it go evenso. Thank you for your reply and Happy Sunday.
      December 10, 2017 2:24 AM MST
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  • 22891
    depends on what happened
      December 9, 2017 4:44 PM MST
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  • 2465
    I've been like you, in that respect, for more years than I can say. 

    I find it amusing when people here act as if they know someone (that they don't actually know personally), but yet they're confident that person is angry, mad, sad, etc. I've experienced some saying that to me, but they're only fooling themselves. Like I've said many times before, I've not once gotten angry at anyone no matter what they may have typed. And that's all they are - words on a page that someone you don't even know pecked out on their computers.  It's certainly nothing to lose sleep over, ever. When it does happen, I find it amusing, not hurtful. 
      December 9, 2017 5:15 PM MST
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  • 113301
    ((hugs)) Precisely PC. I've been on an internet social site since 2005 (Answerbag at first). When I was a newbie I used to take everyone seriously. The ones that seemed so angry I tried to talk to and figure out why they were so upset. It finally dawned on me that is how they are wired and they only show up to confront/attack/assault/insult because they get off on it. What a revelation that was! Now I just ignore them. I give everyone a chance. But the minute they use this forum to attack/insult me rather than answer the question I asked I move on and don't bother with them again. I have no time for such petty people. Let them  play among themselves or with themselves. I don't have the time or inclination to watch or listen so I don't. Thank you for your reply and Happy Sunday m'dear! ;)
      December 10, 2017 2:19 AM MST
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  • 2465
    That's the only intelligent way to deal with those matters. 

    I hope you're having a great day. 
      December 10, 2017 9:48 AM MST
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  • 113301
     It was a good day PC. Hope yours was as well. Of course I don't take any crap from anyone. I either confront or ignore but I am no longer ever HURT by it. Disgusted? You betcha. But disgust is a healthier emotion than being hurt. I'm gonna a question about it. Thank you for your reply and Happy Monday! :)
      December 11, 2017 3:43 AM MST
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  • 7832
    Unfortunately, I'm always going to feel the pain of it all.
      December 9, 2017 5:18 PM MST
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  • 113301
    I hope you're wrong Zack. I do. Thank you for your reply and Happy Sunday. I don't know how old you are. I'm 80 so I've been around the barn more than a few times. When I first started out on Answerbag it was 2005 and I took everyone seriously. Now I just interact with those who are civil and thoughtful and informative. The others can play with one another or with themselves. I don't care to participate so I don't.
      December 10, 2017 2:22 AM MST
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