Are we really and truly capable of completely forgiving someone who has wronged us as if they never had? Or do we carry a grudge, albeit a very tiny one, to the grave?

I am capable of forgiving anyone. its not good to hold a grudge. I love everyone despite what they did. if I can't forgive someone then God can't forgive me. one of the biggest problems is that people have a hard time forgiving themselves.

Hello N:

I'm a black and white kinda guy..  If you violate my trust, you have proven you're NOT trustworthy, and I'll NEVER trust you again.

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Of course. 

Let he who has never wronged somene, cast the first stone.

Don't tell me you have never hurt someone else.  Did they forgive you?  Did you feel better and decide to improve?

Same deal.

Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone.

I forigive.  It does not mean I FORGET.  I just let it go and have no emotions tied in with it.  That just hurts me and no one else.

That's a nice approach, Sharonna.

I have had someone wronged me in the past & forgiven them & all has been good, I have also lost trust in others. But always must give people the benefit of the doubt. 

Giving people the benefit of the doubt is what I practise too. But there have been a couple of times I've regretted it. In one instance about 18 years ago I had to make a clean break with my employer to prevent my name from being falsely sullied. 

That's an unfortunate situation, but it sounds as if you haven't allowed it to affect you regarding other people, so good on you :-)  

I suggest immediate resolution in order to avoid such situations....;-D...

My parents, father particularly, have taught me to be trusting because there are way more genuine and trustworthy people than otherwise. And if I get short-changed, which is bound to happen sometimes, well that's life.

Yes, unfortunately there will always people out there that will take advantage of others, how they sleep at night is beyond me.  

I can and have forgiven other for deeds done against me.

I can also walk away with my dignity still intact. Nobody is worth me carrying a grudge. Grudges are too heavy to carry. 

No

Yes

We are individuals. There is no we answer.  You answer for you only. 

To the.grave. . . And beyond.

Thank you for opening our eyes with your insight, SuperA.

I suppose you're right.

True.

Depends on the person and the situation.

Forgiveness is unnecessary when mistakes are repaired, misunderstandings sorted out and clarified.

If someone demonstrates a destructive habit I leave and don't come back. 

There is a part of me that is vengeful - I don't act on it - and I take care not to permit myself fantasies of revenge,

but I've been known to feel schadenfreude - vindictive glee - when consequences of a typical behaviour eventually catch up with the perpetrator through no action of mine.