Are those who support/defend abusers losers? Why would any woman at any time for any reason defend/support a don john? Hairshirts?

I wasn't sure if you were referring to specific women, a specific woman or women in general but just to say, women aren't immune from stupidity I am afraid to say.. There are stupid women, just as there are stupid men and sometimes, frustratingly, women condone behaviour which actively keeps women vulnerable and powerless in marriages and the work-place.