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The stereotype is dad as disciplinarian and mom as the one who does the comforting. In our family it was the opposite.. What about yours?

Posted - May 27, 2018

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  • 6098
    My father disciplined his sons - my older brothers.  But he left it to my mother to oversee me because I think he felt he didn't know much about girls.  And women.  But then because he sold on the road he was not home so much and mostly I would say my brothers disciplined themselves.  I always had a vague sense of discipline which helped me through many trials earlier in my life until I really could learn for myself how to really lead a disciplined life.  I would say neither were comforters. 
      May 27, 2018 5:57 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    Thank you for your reply og and Happy Sunday to thee. So neither your dad or mom were comforting? Did you mind?  :(
      May 27, 2018 11:19 AM MDT
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  • 6477
    I think fortunately now that men are more active in childrearing it's meant that men aren't necessarily seen in that way now...
      May 27, 2018 7:29 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    My mom was the disciplinarian and my dad was the one who comforted my baby sister and me. How was it in your family Addb? Thank you for your reply! :)
      May 27, 2018 8:41 AM MDT
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  • 6477
    We didn't really have discipline...my dad sure wouldn't have done it...I think we were just angelic children :P
      May 27, 2018 9:34 AM MDT
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  • 113301
     Of course you were sweetie and still are! Lucky me that you're a pal! Maybe some of you will rub off on me and i can be angelic too? Thank you for your reply Addb!  :)
      May 27, 2018 11:16 AM MDT
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  • 3463
    My mom was the tough one and my dad was a softie. 
      May 27, 2018 10:54 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    Perhaps that's how it is in many/most families these days. Wonder when the switch occurred? Thank you for your reply Lulu'sMom and Happy Sunday!  :)
      May 27, 2018 11:17 AM MDT
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  • 3463
    Happy Sunday Rosie
      May 27, 2018 3:01 PM MDT
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  • 113301
    Thank you Lulu'sMom and Happy Monday! :)
      May 28, 2018 3:13 AM MDT
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  • 44797
    No father and mother neither disciplined nor nurtured us. I'm surprized I turned out to be successful.
      May 27, 2018 11:22 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    Neither one did neither one? Good gravy Ele that's sad. T'is a miracle you turned out OK. More than OK. I guess it was just your stubborn self that pulled you through what could have been a miserable life . I often reach to my childhood days in reverie/memory and smile at my recollections. They comfort me. What do you have to reach back to when comfort is what you need? Thank you for your reply!  :) This post was edited by RosieG at May 27, 2018 11:29 AM MDT
      May 27, 2018 11:27 AM MDT
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  • 44797
    Science. I no longer need people to do that...and never have.
      May 27, 2018 11:30 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    I hear ya m'dear. Oh. Yesterday I checked out the Science Channel. 136 on our Spectrum list of channels. I stayed on it all day! It was a series about How the World Works. Infinitely mesmerizing. Way better than anything the bogus  bonespur prez makes up 24/7 or is involved with. A nice respite from the delusional political tragicomedy we live daily. Thank you for your reply Ele! :)
      May 27, 2018 11:40 AM MDT
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  • 44797
    Great series.
      May 27, 2018 11:45 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    Indeed! :)
      May 27, 2018 11:46 AM MDT
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  • 7832
    My mom and dad use to beat my a**. Along with the babysitter and teachers at the time.
      May 27, 2018 11:30 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    I hope to he** that isn't true  Zack. I can't stand the thought of the kind of life you must have endured when you were a kid if what you say is true. It hurts my heart. Children and animals deserve love and being valued and being protected from harm. If the protectors are the ones who harm then the child is on his own and sink or swim it's up to her or him. I feel very bad for you retroactively m'dear. I do. Thank you for your reply and Happy Sunday to you.
      May 27, 2018 11:43 AM MDT
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  • 7832
    Unfortunately, it's very true.
      May 27, 2018 11:57 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    Yet despite all of what you have experienced here you are. Participating. You could have curled up in a tight little ball and just vegetated but you didn't. I think there is a fighting spirit in all of us that keeps us going even when we'd rather just give up. Thank you for your reply and Happy Monday Zack.
      May 28, 2018 3:16 AM MDT
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