Are you able to "let bygones be bygones" or is there always a hostile undercurrent to all encounters?
You carry your experiences everywhere you go. Does the baggage ever get so heavy you have to let some of it go? How do you decide which baggage isn't worth carrying any longer?
Yup, I'm able to let bygones be bygones. Unfortunately, a whole lot of folks aren't. Thing is, while a relationship or friendship suffers for everyone who’s involved, what grudge-holders don’t always understand is how much strain on themselves holding a grudge causes. It takes a lot of mental and emotional energy to keep the steady stream of dislike (sometimes hatred), hostility and aggression (or passive-aggression) that supports a grudge. This kind of cognitive-emotional process is commonly seen in people who aren’t able to ‘let go’ of, or resolve issues. I personally know people that seem to live for the opportunity to hold a grudge. I see a few people right here in Answer Mug that hold on to a grudge as if their lives depend on it. As always, just my opinion. :)
