So it's not your cuppa tea. Big deal. So what? Just don't drink it. Others like it so they drink it. Now does that rile you up bigly? Why?

Hi there Gypsyking. I was kinda hoping you would show up again. After your reply to a question of mine about folks who are always pouncing on others to correct them (actually they do it to show off) I wondered what you thought of my response to your reply. I can see by this reply that we are kinda sorta on the same page about this subject. Why is it that some folks INSIST that you conform to their views and if you don't YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS WRONG? I don't get it. I say "different strokes for different folks". But no. They will have none of it. What they want is robotic conformity and any deviation from that gets them really upset. I have no idea why that is and I'm betting you don't either. Or maybe you do. SIGH. So thank you for your reply and Happy Sunday to ya! :) This post was edited by RosieG at June 3, 2018 4:54 AM MDT

I liked your response.. Sorry I didn’t reply, I was tired. When it comes to the English language I do like to get my point across to people so that they can understand me easily. I wouldn’t want to be misunderstood. 

With this question i was I was thinking about homosexuality and that sort of thing. I’ve never actually been hateful to someone that does that but I’ve been called homophobic many times for believing it to be wrong. A man having sex with another man isn’t just like a spelling mistake is it? Lolz

 We have different comfort levels about different things Gk. It has to do with a lot of things. We're all wired differently. We have different tastes in foods and music and literature and cars and politics and social "norms". I've evolved (for lack of a better word) over time. At first homosexuality seemed odd to me...strange.  But you know what? People love whom they love. I don't think anyone can argue that. For me to judge whom others love as being right or wrong is absurd. Here's why. I don't want anyone telling me whom I may or may not love.  So how can I do unto others what I would not tolerate their doing unto me? Where is the fairness or logic in that? What IS a deal-breaker for me is not folks who love but those who hate and actively try to harm/destroy.  How people treat one another matters to me. Kindness is never out of season or out of date or out of place. At a minimum. Being caring is good too but some folks are not so caring. Anyone can be kind. Not everyone is. Long reply to your question. Some things aren't your cuppa tea personally but why be upset if others find it pleasing? How does that infringe upon your actions? It's live and let live. If folks do things you wouldn't but harm no one including themselves I can't see how it matters to me. See? Thank you for your thoughtful reply. Remember that song "what the world needs now is love just love?" Sounds really incredibly silly doesn't it? Too simplistic. But what could it hurt if people at least were kind to one another? They don't have to love everyone. But treating folks with kindness can't cost them that much. You can't control what you think of course. No one can.  But you absolutely can control what you say and do and always being kind would reflect very well on you and me and everyone else in my opinion. Am I always kind? Gosh no. But I try. :)

I worry that if people become too relaxed and laidback about what others do then people will become acclimatised or conditioned to bad behaviour. Bad behaviour will no longer be seen as bad but seen as freedom of expression. It’s a thin line

 But here's the thing. You think loving someone of the same gender is a bad thing. I understand that and many others feel as you do too. But how do they harm anyone? I will tell you that bad behavior that terrifies me. What is going on currently in our country politically is VERY BAD BEHAVIOR to me. Norms have been obliterated. The Constitution is being trampled on. What we used to expect and depend upon without question is gone. I don't know your politics and perhaps by this response of mine I will have angered you s i anger others.  But I think loving someone of whom others disapprove is not evil or bad. It's the haters that bring evil to us. It is the haters who will destroy us in my opinion. Not those who love. Just my opinion for what it's worth. You may never agree with me Gk. So what? I don't mind that one bit. I hope you don't mind that one bit either. We can't all always agree on everything. Well maybe there are some people who conform just so they will be accepted by "the group". I've never been like that. I used to be silent when I was very young and very shy. Now I just say what I think. Some folks get really irate and upset. Others pay no attention. Some might see some things the way I do. It's all good. Thank you for your reply! :)

I don’t think loving someone of the same gender is a bad thing. I love my father and my brother. its men laying with other men in the same bed that’s bad. I don’t judge individuals that do things like that, I just worry about the future. What will be normalised next?

I see. Well once again love has a variety of outlets and physical love is one of them. I don't think it's "normalized" though. That would mean it would be universally acceptable and it isn't. Let me ask you this. Say you despise broccoli. Can't stand it. But I LOVE it. Would you deny me my right to enjoy broccoli just because you hate it? You see a huge difference in physical love and food preference. You say there is no comparison? I see no difference at all. We have different tastes/preferences/intellects/experiences/needs. There are a variety of things that combine to make us whom we are. If you had a very good friend (male) whom you loved platonically would you stop loving him if the person he loved totally including physically were a male? Is whom someone sleeps with so important to you that it could destroy a friendship? As long as no one is forcing you to sleep with a guy how does what others do in their intimate private moments affect you? As I said before how do you control whom you love? Homosexuality is not a new thing. It's been around since humans have been around. Would you impose your religion on others (assuming you are religious) or want them to impose theirs on you? What about politics? What about anything? What people do in their private lives that affect no one else...assuming it is consensual...is not any of our business. No disrespect intended to you Gk. I'm just saying there might be things you do in private that others would not approve of. Maybe you eat tons of candy daily and weigh 500 lbs. Or maybe you get drunk daily or high on drugs daily. Those things are harmful to you but they do not affect others and it is your own business how you wish to live your life. Yes I know I'm really reaching here for examples because the bottom line is we are responsible for ourselves. What we say and do. Others are likewise responsible for themselves. We make choices. If there is no impact on anyone else then if the choice/decision we make is lousy we're the ones who have to pay for it. I might think some of your decisions are lousy and you might think some of mine are lousy. Thinking that is fine. But acting on it? Trying to legislate against it? Attacking one another because of it or insulting or disrespecting one another because of their choices that are benign with respect to the impact of them on others? Makes no sense to me. Maybe this is just one thing that is and always will be what it is. We just see it differently. That's fine. I have no problem with it. You're not the only one who feels/thinks/believes as you do. I'm not the only one who feels/thinks/believes what I do. And so it goes. Thank you for your reply m'dear! :) Oh and I do not equate homosexuality with being harmful or destructive. Consensual love among adults is a good thing however it manifests itself. It may not be my cuppa tea for me personally but so what? This post was edited by RosieG at June 3, 2018 6:33 AM MDT