Now that they're grown, I don't spend a lot at birthdays. I don't like to buy gifts just for the sake of buying something. I pick up things for them when I see something I really think they'll like and give them these things throughout the year.
When they were younger, probably $200 on average. Sometimes we did birthday trips and that was obviously more.
Awww....I'm sorry to hear that. I'm not big on celebrating holidays or even my own birthday, but I think every child should experience being celebrated occasionally. At least to not feel left out, I guess?
My daughter is grown and I generally give her money. I don't buy gifts at Christmas in any big way. I might send a little something for the kids. I either give the grandchildren great birthday gifts or a big check.