Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» Every decision/choice you make and every PREFERENCE is the result of your having JUDGED something. Judging is NOT avoidable. Didja NOT KNOW?
I assume you're alluding to the biblical quote "judge not lest ye be judged". A quote many people take out of context so they can justify their actions (don't tell me what I can and can't do).
When Jesus said this, He was condemning double standards. He wasn't saying don't judge (because in other passages He says we are to judge), but rather don't have a double standard when you do judge. As in - "You can't do such and such, but it's perfectly ok if I do it."
i cannot tell you how many times I have been ADMONISHED by others for being so judgmental! It would be ludicrous and ridiculous and absurd if it weren't so MADDENING. Everyone makes choices/decisions. They JUDGE which will be most beneficial to them I expect or which will be most harmful to others and that JUDGMENT is what guides them. Thank you for your thoughtful reply Shuhak and Happy Saturday! :).
Score one for the imprecision of the English language.
I would consider "judge" to be the act of deciding something for all time based on the interpretation of known and observable facts. I would differentiate it from "conclude," which would imply that there could be factors that I (as a human) have no knowledge of or that I (as an individual human) may evaluate incorrectly or totally misunderstand.
To wit, I have not made a judgment that God exists, but I have concluded that He does.
As SC Justice Black once commented, "We must act---on peril of our lives---because time is short."
(In other words, we have no choice but to make decisions (right or wrong) daily in our lives.)
Thank you for your thoughtful reply tom. When I choose or decide or state a preference I JUDGE which choice or decision will be best for me. One cannot escape being judgmental. Now your take on a difference between judging and concluding is not mine. I see no difference between the two but you do which is fine of course. I expect there are always nuances underlying our choices. Some choices seem awkward. If I say I PREFER broccoli to okra because I like its taste it's sounds smoother and less stiff than if I say I JUDGE that broccoli tastes better than okra. I use food to make my point because I AM A FOODIE. I have lost count of the times folks chastise me for being so "judgmental". Seriously. They don't have a clue that they are "judging" ME by saying I am judgmental and every single time they make a choice it is based on judgment. Why am I making such a big deal out of it? Because it drives me bonkers."Stop being so judgmental Rosie!" AARRGGHH! Happy Saturday to you! :)
This post was edited by RosieG at May 11, 2019 10:28 AM MDT
"Adjudicate" is one of my favorite words, and to me it indicates that something has been permanently (to the extent that anything can be) determined.
And then such a determination, if unappealed---and or if appealed and unreversed---becomes "dispositive" (Another of my favorite words---i always enjoyed law courses.)
Between my basic personality and my ADD, I always paint with a finely textured brush. (Except when talking about Trump supporters, and then I am convinced that just throwing a bucket of paint at them is adequate.)
This post was edited by tom jackson at May 11, 2019 10:41 AM MDT
Judge has a lot of nuance. It is 50 shades of nuance. You can be judgmental. That is, judging in the negative with some wish for the object of derision to feel a guilt of some sort for the behavior. So that judging is very toxic to me.
Then there is just selecting a preference of some sort. One thing seems better than another thing, be it a choice of action or a choice of food, etc.
Then there is objective judging of a jury to a court hearing. That is objective judging of facts. (in the best of all possible scenarios, of course)
Then there is judging to improve one's character. Meaning constantly judging what matters. The SELF. That is the only place where judging should matter. When pointing the finger inwards and trying to improve oneself.
Then there is non-judmentalism where we realize there is nothing to judge and never was anything to judge. We are all one. I have not reached that state yet, obviously. I judge Donald Trump every second.
Shuhak 