I'm just like you. I hate being dependent on anything if I can do it myself. I cut my own hair too. I hate that appointment idea. Never-ending drudgery.
This is why I never got married. I never got the idea of how to navigate after the glitter fades.
I thought it was all moonlight and romance and ? So, if my "husband" would not scratch my back? I would have been crushed. LOL I never had a relationship last longer than a decade. so I am not an expert at all. Love is a life-long relationship. Long haul and that counts for A LOT.
I honor that and I honor your marriage. It is normal. You should see the people I massage. They love their spouses and the spouse just DOES NOT LIKE DOING THAT. So there is that idea too.
I used to cut my own hair. not so much because of the appointment but because I would pay a lot of money and come home saying, "Oh, well, it will grow," or take out my scissors and even it out. Then I went to the hairdresser in PA that my sister goes to and it's a whole new world. She charges $16 (seniors 60+) and I'm always happy.
The itch is always where I have to extend the handle ... and then it collapses after one scratch ... so I have to extend it, scratch, extend it, scratch, etc.
And when I find one long enough without telescoping ... I swear somebody steals them. Somewhere, there's a gnome with a collection of back scratchers stolen from me.
When I get an itch in that location, it's easier for me to use a doorway - like a bear using a tree. lol
Not the one that I bought. It's made of metal an the telescoping is tight so once you open it to where you need it, it stays there. My niece bought me a wooden one, but the tines aren't sharp enough to actually scratch the itch. The one I bought was from Amazon. You'd like it.
I can reach all parts of my back with my hands - but my nails are not strong enough for a good scratch. So I use a Chinese bamboo back-scratcher - perfect for the job. But not long ago we were at a public sauna and spa when the itch came on and I didn't have the scratcher with me. Ari was happy to give me the scratch - but of course, I had to coach him exactly where and how hard. Much as we often feel irritated with one another, the deep friendship is still there - I felt grateful.