Who are you? Whom do you want to be? What do you want others to see you as and how far different from that is whom you really are? Folks you adore admire respect and love. You care how they see you and what they think about you. Do you KNOW for sure? If you have been fighting the wrong battle for years and waging the wrong wars and defended supported the wrong people? Not too late to change and DO THE RIGHT THING. So you can be on the side of RIGHT and not embarrass humiliate upset disappoint your loved ones. If you care about them of course.