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Randy D

Do you have a family member who only gets in contact with you to ask for something, such as favors or money or to borrow things? ~

Posted - January 4, 2020
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  • 44623
    I did, but he died about 5 years ago.
      January 4, 2020 8:53 AM MST
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  • 8214
    No, people know I don't have much. 
      January 4, 2020 8:55 AM MST
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  • 11015
    I don't have any that don't.
      January 4, 2020 9:23 AM MST
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  • 53509

      Really? Well, in that case, I see a way you and I can kill two birds with one stone!  You’ll adopt me into your loving home and your loving arms, and finally we can be together!  I’m so happy!  (Get it notarized to make sure it’s legal; I’ll need it that way to have the restraining orders canceled.)



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      January 4, 2020 5:49 PM MST
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  • 11015
    Does this mean your new family members will contact you for cash and favors instead of me? In that case, I'm in.
      January 5, 2020 5:06 AM MST
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  • 53509

      Hey, wait . . . 

    :|
      January 5, 2020 8:05 AM MST
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  • 1893
    Yes I had a few.  Moving out of town and making sure they do have your current contact info is a  help.
      January 4, 2020 11:45 AM MST
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  • 53509

      Is a help to whom?  To those who want to ask for things?

      January 4, 2020 5:30 PM MST
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  • 1893
    To me to avoid these folks.  I do not mind helping family members down on their luck.  I object to continuous cries for help with no responsibility to move their situation forward
      January 4, 2020 5:32 PM MST
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  • 53509

      Then don’t you mean making sure they don’t have your contact information?
      January 4, 2020 5:34 PM MST
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  • 34305
    No, not anymore.
      January 4, 2020 3:22 PM MST
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  • My brother is dead from cancer and my sister from alcoholism.  I am estranged from my parents.  I have no family.
      January 4, 2020 3:25 PM MST
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  • 46117
    We have a lot in common.  
      January 4, 2020 4:41 PM MST
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  • 44623
    You have us. DON"T ask for money, dude.
      January 4, 2020 6:19 PM MST
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  • 46117
    Oh sure.  I get along so well with mooches.  That is not going to happen twice.  
      January 4, 2020 4:40 PM MST
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  • 2836
    My brother was one such person. 
    I gave him shelter, money, food, clothing...things he needed. I also let him use my car many times and gave rides.   It became very daunting.  When he was doing OK, I never heard from him.
    Both our parents died when I was in my 30s and he was my only brother so it was important to me to help whenever I could but it took a great toll.
    He finally met a woman and as far as I know, he's still living with her.  I have rarely heard from him since... not for my son(s) weddings, birthdays,  graduations, anything.

      January 4, 2020 5:29 PM MST
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  • 53509

      Is he older than you are or younger?  Do the two of you have any sisters?
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      January 4, 2020 5:36 PM MST
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  • 2836
    He's three years younger than me, Randy.
    We didn't have any other siblings. That would have been nice if we did.

    This post was edited by Jon at January 5, 2020 8:05 AM MST
      January 4, 2020 5:38 PM MST
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  • 46117
    You did a great thing. He did not.  Great for you.  I think you should be proud. 
      January 4, 2020 7:12 PM MST
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  • 2836
    Proud? I don't feel proud. 
    I just thought that was what family did for one another when they were down and needed help. I miss my family.
    That was a very kind thing for you to say, Sharona. Thank You
      January 4, 2020 8:46 PM MST
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