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I overcome my grief by living my live as usual - minus my husband, of course. Do you support me in this?

Giving you an example: Yesterday my resort neighbors picked me up with their golf cart and transported me to a new and unknown world to me - having fun at the weekly "Tequila Tuesday Party" in our resort without my husband. My Social Life was non-existant for quite some years recently - I did not even know that event existed. I intend, not to cut my laughter in live short in the future.

Posted - January 15


  • 6954

    Keep going forward.

    Your husband would never have wanted you to die before you actually were dead.
      January 15, 2020 5:23 PM MST

  • Thank you, Tom, for answering so short as well as being so clear in your answer! I showed my camperfriends, how a couple of Margaritas has no impact on an experienced German "Girl", when it comes to have fun. This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at January 16, 2020 11:48 AM MST
      January 15, 2020 5:28 PM MST

  • 6954
    That's what I was going for.

    He and I both approve wholeheartedly---but the journey forward is definitely in your own way and in your own time and with whatever rest stops you choose along the way.
      January 15, 2020 5:31 PM MST

  • Sometimes I wish i could give a special Like This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at January 16, 2020 12:20 PM MST
      January 15, 2020 6:14 PM MST

  • 1860
    It's always in your best interest to live your life in a way that makes you happy.  That's what your husband would have wanted for sure!  
      January 15, 2020 6:25 PM MST

  • 33018
    Of course we support you on this. I hope I am as strong as you if the same fate afflicts me. Bring on the Margs. Pat would approve.
      January 15, 2020 6:48 PM MST

  • 10777
    Absolutely. It's exactly what he wants for you, I'm sure of it.
      January 15, 2020 6:52 PM MST

  • 3520
    You go girl. (Do you have that expression there?)
      January 16, 2020 7:59 PM MST

  • Whatever you mean with in your comment, I am positive thinking - and I have everything there to boost it!!!

      January 16, 2020 8:04 PM MST

  • 3520
    It means, go for it.
      January 16, 2020 8:40 PM MST

  • I must have had a brain freeze, geeezze. Thanks!
      January 17, 2020 6:53 AM MST

  • 6954
    The format of this site does not really lend itself to conversing back and forth over the long term.  You posted this question on Jan 17, stayed active on this thread for a few days, and then posted an update on your situation that did not pose a question, although the post itself was wonderful news.

    It's nice to know you are doing well, but I can't think of anything to say beyond "I'm happy to hear you are doing so well"---and I am happy that you are.

    But I am tend to write short, terse answers to questions and am not particularly gifted in conversation.

      February 14, 2020 2:18 AM MST

  • I deleted my long update post and the short one after that. I write this for others to know. It is not your fault, tom jackson. I learned my lesson.
      February 14, 2020 5:29 PM MST

  • 6954
    Well, it sounds like you are on the right path.  Best of luck as you proceed.
      February 17, 2020 4:19 PM MST

  • 46201
    Of course.  You need to live until you die.

    This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at February 14, 2020 5:38 PM MST
      February 14, 2020 5:31 PM MST