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  • answerMug is my utopia. I was born and raised in a small Midwestern town that probably had fewer citizens than answerMug has members now. Though I presently live in a good-sized city, I still carry many of the values I picked up in my youth. I love people of all types, I try to be considerate, and I’m incredibly curious about everything.

     

    A few years ago, I stumbled upon a large Q&A site and became smitten. I met wonderful people from all over the world and learned about cultures and people I never would have otherwise. As many of you may know, these large corporate sites can also be breeding grounds for hate and contempt and I found myself spending less and less time there because I couldn’t stand to watch people tear each other apart. Someone I knew from that large corporate site owned a little Q&A site, and so I ventured over to check it out.

     

    There were about four of us on the site, and a lot of the talk was nonsense, but I felt an instant sense of welcome and made myself at home. Within a few months, the owner invited me on board as an admin, and I helped him develop the site more. In return, he gave it to me. The site was answerMug.

     

    I knew answerMug was not one-of-a-kind in terms of model. Q&A sites are a dime a dozen. What we did have, however, were some very good people who were dedicated to making AM a positive and welcoming  place. That was the one thing we did differently.

     

    answerMug never made money, but I was ok with that. It was my home. My sanctuary. My utopia. Every now and then we’d get a new member, but our numbers remained quite small for years. We might get one new member every week or two. In this respect, managing it was easy. I do work a full-time job outside answerMug (I’m a writer), as do all our volunteers and helpers. As each member came in, we were able to greet them and they’d adapt to the site. Each one, carrying the torch- providing a welcoming environment, engaging in civil discussions, educating, and learning. One by one.

     

    Last December, that big corporate site I had been a part of closed without warning. I knew within minutes, because my inbox instantly filled up with messages about people trying to join answerMug. As always, we welcomed the newcomers on board. There were some growing pains, but for the most part, people were just happy to have a place to congregate. At last, answerMug had a diverse group of members. I was over the moon. We talked a lot about whether new policies needed to be made or not. After all, a large site can’t possibly function largely based on trust and expecting people to do the right things. Some people called for harsher punishments and faster bans from the site. After mulling it over, we decided to leave our policies as they are. We’re not here to discipline people. We’re here to facilitate discussions. In order to have that atmosphere, we needed to leave things exactly how they were. In a matter of weeks, the growing pains subsided, and we literally had hundreds of people from everywhere peacefully interacting and sharing.

     

    Then, we all got word that another large corporate site was closing. This time, my inbox exploded. Not knowing where all these people were coming from, I genuinely believed for a moment that someone was playing with me- signing up seven accounts at once. “Seven?!?” I was shocked. The next day, there were 50 and the day after that, 100. You newcomers have rocked our worlds, and have now more than tripled our ranks.

     

    answerMug isn’t like other sites. We do care how our members treat each other. In fact, it’s probably the most important value our site has. We care what you think about improvements for the site, we care whether you feel at home here, and we care how you are treated.

     

    Those of you who are coming in from other sites are probably not familiar with this type of atmosphere. On most sites, it’s dog eat dog. Kill or be killed. So, some of that has carried over. But, the amazing thing is watching the transformation. I have watched the first round of refugees come in and settle.  Watched them lay down their swords and I watched them welcome the refugees from the second site’s closing. To me, this is beautiful.

     

    Although we are experiencing some growing pains as everyone adapts to the new culture, I am seeing amazing things every day. I have seen members after only two days here, welcoming newcomers and helping them navigate. I have had multiple people go out of their way to send me emails, comments, and messages thanking me for providing this site. I see people welcoming each other on the chat, encouraging others through the Q&A, blogs, and groups.

     

    Tonight, I sat at my computer exhausted. The past few weeks have been a whirlwind. I tentatively began my rounds. I hesitantly clicked on the chat box to take a peek and make sure all was well. A group of people were having a friendly, lively conversation. Check. I glanced at the Q&A, a little afraid of what I might find. It was full of fresh conversations and peaceful interactions. Check. I moved my mouse over to the photos, thinking, “If I see one more inappropriate photo, I’m going to lose it.” Clean selfies, family pets, and landscape shots were the only things in sight. Check.

     

    It was then that it hit me. I could dwell on the things that frustrate me, but that would undermine all the good things that are happening here. The good things that you all are making happen, because without you, there would be no community.

     

    I can’t count the number of emails I have sent out in the past week. Hundreds. Literally hundreds. A lot of them were corrective in nature… “Be nice,” “Please put statements in the statements group and not in the questions,” “For the love of Pete, put some clothes on before you post an avatar.”

     

    What I have been missing, though, is the chance to connect with you all. The daily admin duties are piling up and I’m not getting out and about like I used to. Today, right now, was the first time I haven’t had to do something admin-related as I ran my rounds. I *think* we are settling in.

     

    Thank you. Thank you for helping create utopia. Thank you for building a community. For laying down your swords. For telling jokes. For sharing stories. Thank you for the thank yous. Most of all, thank you for continuing to make this site feel like home.

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  • msinquisitive
    msinquisitive
    I sincerely appreciate you, JA.  Thank you so very much.
    April 17, 2016

  • Marguerite, the Beloved
    Marguerite, the Beloved
    Thank you for having the courage to start your own site, with the atmosphere you wanted to reside in. I think you have done a remarkable job. I do see the difference from one of the sites you mentioned. This seems like a more relaxed place. The new people who have recently moved in have added more activity here. I am happy about that. I like that you talk to us. Many of us don't realize how much work it is to manage such a site. Congratulations on your successes and I hope it continues to function as you wish. Again, thank you! You are awesome!
    April 17, 2016

  • weylon.com
    weylon.com
    Amen, Bluejay!
    April 17, 2016

  • thepie
    thepie
    Thank you for opening your Utopia to me. It's a good community, good people, good site and you are doing a wonderful job. 
    April 17, 2016

  • OldSchoolTheSKOSlives
    OldSchoolTheSKOSlives
    Well, I will continue to help make everyone feel welcome in my customary fashion....;-D...
    April 17, 2016

  • MunchkinakaCottonCandy
    MunchkinakaCottonCandy
    Thank-you, JA.  This is a great site and I'm sure we all love it here and enjoy ourselves.
    April 17, 2016

  • Baba
    Baba
    thanks Just Asking you brought a tear to my eyes Cheers for being here
    April 17, 2016

  • Madeleine
    Madeleine
    Thank-you JA! I love how friendly and welcoming you have been! I love the diversity here and the way that everyone is getting on so well despite all our differences seems nothing short of awesome! :) Where can I get the tee-shirt? Also, love beards. (Wouldn't want one personally though) :D
    April 17, 2016

  • Just Asking
    Just Asking
    Woah. I didn't expect this kind of a response from this. I'm getting all sentimental. :)  It would be madness if I tried to respond individually to each of you in this kind of thread, but I will address a couple of things... we actually do have a Zazzle store with T-shirts: http://www.zazzle.com/answermug+gifts and I'm going to contact Mr. Wilson for permission to snag his design and use it on some of our shirts. And maybe this isn't the best place to address this, but "fake" people are online everywhere. There is no way to guarantee you are talking to someone as they present themselves... anywhere... ever. However, I do think that we have a very authentic group, largely built of people who are genuine, but no matter where you are online, you should always exercise caution about who you trust with personal information.  To the group: your comments and warmth are what is making answerMug an amazing place to be. I am very, very grateful to be surrounded by people like you. Lastly, I do want to give a shout out to "Camel." I alluded to him in my blog, but I didn't want to oust him in case he was trying to fly under the radar. This site was created by him, and it is his vision and concept that we've been building on. So, thank you, Senior Camel... I'm glad to have known you, honored to have been entrusted with your dream, and happy that you're still around to see it come to life.   Somebody get me a tissue. lol
    April 17, 2016

  • JarJarBoom
    JarJarBoom
    I like this site, the atmosphere is great and people actually flush after using!
    April 17, 2016

  • righty1 - Sgt at ARMS
    righty1 - Sgt at ARMS
    LET'S GO CHAMP!!
    April 17, 2016

  • mejj
    mejj
    Thank you too for taking out time to share the utopia! : )
    April 19, 2016

  • Mr. Inquisitive
    Mr. Inquisitive
    You rock, JA! You always did...but congrats to YOU for creating the kind of atmosphere here that people want to be a part of. Your happy place became our happy place. That's pretty dang magical. So once more...YOU ROCK!!!
    April 22, 2016

  • Just Asking
    Just Asking
    Thank you for your thoughtful comments one and all. :) It's really good to see you, Mr. I! I've missed you!
    April 22, 2016

  • leafyvegetable
    leafyvegetable
    It was a great post. Thank you, JustAsking! :)
    April 23, 2016

  • myonemaster
    myonemaster
    Thanks JA, not sure I will ever lay down my sword but at least it is now back in its scabbard
    April 28, 2016

  • Underconstruction
    Underconstruction
    Lovely post. Thank you for welcoming us so warmly. Keep up the good work and Kudos to you
    April 30, 2016

  • bookerdana
    bookerdana
    I would like to thank you for making such a wonderful environment for us! When the other site,not this one but the other one whose name must not be mentioned imploded I didn't have high expectations. I was so wrong! I love this place! I have already beat whatever  sword  I was carrying into a plowshare. I am keeping my Gillette razor,though, you gotta stay sharp.. I might have guessed that you were a writer,you communicate beautifully. Again thank you the other admins and keep it up! Answermug is like going from a NY blizzard to: :)
    April 30, 2016

  • ifoundmehere
    ifoundmehere
    Thank you xx
    April 30, 2016

  • Chirpychick
    Chirpychick
    Thank you for your message of welcome. I am one of the many from EP. I hope that we can keep out the snarky ones that were on EP. You will know them sooner or later. Peace and the best to you all.
    May 3, 2016

  • Nietzsche's Eyes
    Nietzsche's Eyes
    I've missed all you muggers. (:
    May 4, 2016

  • Just Asking
    Just Asking
    Thanks, one and all. Welcome back, Nietzsche's Eyes!
    May 4, 2016

  • RPF1918
    RPF1918
    You're a good egg JA. You make me want to be better.
    May 4, 2016

  • Just Asking
    Just Asking
    Thank you! You guys made my day. :)
    May 5, 2016

  • Monique
    Monique
    -so much for creating this site!
    May 23, 2016

  • Just Asking
    Just Asking
    Thank you for being here, Monique. I'm glad you like it. :)
    May 24, 2016

  • PeaPod
    PeaPod
    This is the first time I have had the pleasure of reading this.  This is the beauty of the new site.  

    I echo all that is said here from other members.  This place is a pleasure to come to.  

    Thank-you JA.

    September 28, 2016 - 2 like this

  • Danilo_G
    Danilo_G
    Thank you, JA!
    April 17, 2016

  • Luna Lovegood
    Luna Lovegood
    Honestly, we should thank you for opening up your doors to us and making it feel like home. We're only returning the favour :) Thank you!
    April 17, 2016

  • Degbeme
    Degbeme
    Thank you for allowing us into your community. I`m still finding my way around. But do enjoying being here.
    April 17, 2016

  • AdamAPAD
    AdamAPAD
    Thank you for all your dedicated hard work..  :)
    April 17, 2016

  • WadeWilson
    WadeWilson
    Thank you for writing this whole Thank You letter just for little ol' me. To be fair though, I couldn't have done all this hard work by my lonesome and with the enormous help of, no one else, I had to. I just pulled up socks, rolled my pants sideways, put my no life on hold and got stuck in, and all I got was this lousy t-shirt.... I'm just kidding, I gave the t-shirt to John (the guy in the photo), he liked it, it blends into his beard, and I know he doesn't look it, but that is his happy face, his beard just makes it look like he's not smiling, but if you stare hard enough and look long enough, you'll see, that you're wasting your time, but beards are fun to look at, I mean, where do they come from? Anyway, before we get all caught up in beards like dried milk on a hobo, I just wanted to say, Thank YOU, for thanking ME, little Wade Wilson, a small town gal from the over-populated UK of Earth. Mugs and kisses xuxuxux
    April 17, 2016

  • weylon.com
    weylon.com
    This all started with an idea. You and I were the only ones with the visualization at the time to know what we were building. I knew you would carry on answerMug and make it better. I sincerely appreciate you building upon the foundation I poured about four years ago. You are one of a kind. The love, peace and harmony we all share here is wonderful. Although my official work at answerMug is now minimal, I make it my job to show everyone love. I don't need to be loved in return. Many people come here suffering all sorts of mental disorders from depression to social anxiety and I can relate. I also have studied a lot of conventional and non conventional psychology and I am always willing to talk to anyone on the site, despite your opinion of me. Although I rarely laugh laugh or smile, making people laugh is my passion. It's hard to laugh and be depressed. The late Zig Ziglar used to say often that if you help enough other people get what they want, you can have everything you want.l Maybe you can't laugh or smile right now but if you could, what would you laugh and/or smile about. Thank you Just Asking for making answerMug your home, putting so much time into it and keeping my dream alive. Sincerely, Wey
    April 17, 2016

  • Trengo
    Trengo
    thank you for accepting us refugees *bows* may we all live long fruitful lives - right here if possible =)
    April 17, 2016

  • MunchkinakaCottonCandy
    MunchkinakaCottonCandy
    Thanks for a great site.  You do a fabulous job!
    October 1, 2016 - 1 likes this

  • MjMalik
    MjMalik
    Test commenting
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