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When having a Dr. appointment for a physical does it or would it bother you, whether you have a male or female Dr.?

As in would it bother you more if it was the same gender or opposite gender examining you, or does it not make a difference to you one way or the other?

I’m a male and have always had a male Dr. Though I know some do have the opposite gender, depending on their family Dr. and such. To me it would feel way more awkward if it’s a female Dr.

Posted - August 2, 2020

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  • 8214
    I prefer a female doctor. 
      August 2, 2020 2:44 PM MDT
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  • 53531

     

      For answering this question, I had to consult with my wife merely to get the proper timeline correct.

      As a family, my wife and I selected a female doctor as our primary physician over 21 years ago. Then, when I reached the age at which men are recommended to begin getting annual prostate exams, that doctor has been the only person who has performed them on me. It’s not a lie to say that I’ve become accustomed to her touch, and I can’t imagine straying from her to have anyone else do it, ESPECIALLY not some big-knuckled,  hairy-wristed, sausage-fingered man. Also, my overall health and my constant state of above-average physical fitness have resulted in the only requirement I have for seeing her is a yearly physical. My wife sees her more than I do.

      Now to backtrack. We chose this particular physician for a variety of reasons, mostly due to what she has in common with my wife. They are both of the same gender and ethnicity and nationality and approximate age, etc., factors that make it easier for my wife to be comfortable with the person providing her medical care.

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    This post was edited by Randy D at August 2, 2020 7:29 PM MDT
      August 2, 2020 4:20 PM MDT
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  • 234
    Makes good sense.
      August 2, 2020 4:40 PM MDT
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  • 8214
    I'm an examination specialist and would be happy to examine you anytime.
      August 2, 2020 4:49 PM MDT
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  • 53531

     

      Be right there. Let’s make it an entire weekend. I like the thorough method. (Cough, cough.)

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      August 2, 2020 5:57 PM MDT
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  • 10664
    I have no preference.  
      August 2, 2020 4:21 PM MDT
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  • 234
    I guess as long as they are a good Dr. and it's for your health care.
      August 2, 2020 4:41 PM MDT
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  • 44660
    I have had physicals from both genders. It matters not, although since I retired from the Navy they have all been men.
      August 2, 2020 5:03 PM MDT
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  • 13277
    Makes no difference to me.
      August 2, 2020 6:05 PM MDT
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  • 7795
    I guess I never really thought about it until now. A male doctor would do just fine.
      August 2, 2020 6:15 PM MDT
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  • 34486
    I used male doctors when I was young. Mainly because the female doctors in town all had horror stories about their bed side manner.  I was always told that males were more sympathetic. Likely because they had never had same type of symptoms etc. 

    I did skip about 15yrs of any doctor exams of any kind. I was not sick and did not bother with annual checkups.  

    I did get ill in Jan 2019. And after getting did go to an annual check up. She was surprised I had not been ill in that many years. But I am healthy. All my numbers are good with the exception of weight that is higher than should be. 

    The female doctor was a good . she was actually a nurse practitioner. This post was edited by my2cents at August 2, 2020 7:51 PM MDT
      August 2, 2020 7:10 PM MDT
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  • 7408

    I had had a male doctor for all of my life up to a few years ago when the last one I had retired. I had been perfectly comfortable with him or so I thought because I’d not had a female doctor before. A female doctor took over his practice and I stayed on with her and I much prefer having a female doctor now that I’ve had the comparison. 

    Mostly I just like that I don’t have to have a nurse in watching the doctor when I’m getting a physical. I didn’t realize that this only a thing when a male doctor is examining a female that they need to have someone else in the room. Didn’t really care for the audience during the exams lol. 

      August 2, 2020 7:30 PM MDT
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  • 53531

     

      Wait, does that mean I’m no longer invited to watch?  Oh, you didn’t know I’ve been watching?  Er, um, sorry I said anything, please forget what you’ve just heard and go about your appointments as usual.   
      RANDY D IS NOT WATCHING YOU WHEN YOU‘RE GETTING EXAMINED BY YOUR DOCTOR. THIS HAS ALL BEEN A DREAM, GO BACK TO SLEEP, RANDY D IS NOT WATCHING YOU WHEN YOU‘RE GETTING EXAMINED BY YOUR DOCTOR. THIS HAS ALL BEEN A DREAM, GO BACK TO SLEEP, RANDY D IS NOT WATCHING YOU WHEN YOU‘RE GETTING EXAMINED BY YOUR DOCTOR. THIS HAS ALL BEEN A DREAM, GO BACK TO SLEEP, RANDY D IS NOT WATCHING YOU WHEN YOU‘RE GETTING EXAMINED BY YOUR DOCTOR. THIS HAS ALL BEEN A DREAM, GO BACK TO SLEEP, RANDY D IS NOT WATCHING YOU WHEN YOU‘RE GETTING EXAMINED BY YOUR DOCTOR. THIS HAS ALL BEEN A DREAM, GO BACK TO SLEEP . . . 

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      August 2, 2020 9:05 PM MDT
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  • 7408
    I‘m very impressed at how you we‘re able to look like a middle aged woman for all those years and stood silently in the corner of the exam room... but, NO! I’ll never have someone watch while my legs up in stir-ups  again. I can’t believe I endured that for all those years not knowing I didn’t have to lol. 
      August 2, 2020 9:13 PM MDT
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  • 53531

     

      In the room with you?  Nope, that wasn’t me. 





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      August 2, 2020 9:15 PM MDT
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  • 53531

     

    (you we’re were able to look)
    (stir-ups stirrups)

      August 3, 2020 1:43 AM MDT
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  • 1817
    when i was younger i had a male dr do most of my physical exam, but it was always a female who came to check out my privates. to be honest tho that only happened once, and she just lifted the band of pants and looked down. i wonder what she was looking for 

    now that I’m an adult I dont think I would care much tho. 
      August 2, 2020 10:38 PM MDT
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  • I have a male doctor, but if I need to undress or have private parts examined, he leaves to have a female assistant examine me.  If she finds something wrong, which she never has, I would be sent to a different doctor.

    The only fault my doctor finds wrong with me is high blood pressure.  He can't find the cause.  The first suspect is always too much weight, but my body-mass index is only 21,3 kg/m².  A person doesn't weigh too much until that number is 25 kg/m².  I haven't gained weight.  He tested my blood, but it showed nothing wrong.  It's a mystery to him.  It annoys me to take medicine for it.
      August 3, 2020 12:01 AM MDT
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  • 313
    I have a female doctor

      August 5, 2020 2:33 PM MDT
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