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How to comfort your wife when she's upset ?

My wife lost her ex husband 2 years ago me and her got together not long after he died me and her were already good friends. She had a son with him he's almost 10. They were really young when they had him he was only 15 she was 18 they were 18 and 21 when they got married they were married for 6 years they been best friends since they were kids they were together for a long time. Next month would have been their 8 year wedding anniversary last year was hard for her it was her first anniversary without him. He was only 24 when he died. Her brother's friend killed him in a car accident she said she'll never forgive him for it she still hasn't he died just a week after his 24th birthday their son was only 8 when he died it was really hard on him he was really close to him even 2 years later it's still hard especially when he sees his friends and other kids with their dads and they ask about him she put him up for adoption which she's not sure if it was the right thing to do he now lives with his uncle and his partner. Me and her are expecting a baby girl in October. She still feels pretty bad about it. How can I make her feel better?

Posted - May 19, 2021

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  • 16779
    Don't talk. Listen.
      May 19, 2021 4:40 PM MDT
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  • 44614
    Yep.
      May 19, 2021 5:38 PM MDT
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  • 1953
    So she was 18 when she hooked up with a 15-year-old boy, had his baby, he died 8 years later and then she put her 8 year old son up for adoption , now she's pregnant with another baby??? Good luck with that. 
      May 19, 2021 5:38 PM MDT
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  • 44614
    If I lost my ex-wife I would no longer have to pay alimoney. $1000 a month.
      May 19, 2021 5:40 PM MDT
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  • 10052
    Honestly, she needs to get into counseling and start working through some of that if the three of you have any chance at a reasonably mentally-healthy life together. If nothing else, there are grief/loss support groups that are free. 
      May 19, 2021 8:00 PM MDT
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