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Your thoughts on someone/friend who doesn't really ask you any questions/inquire?

I have an online buddy who is cool, and smart and witty, and I enjoyed chatting, but lately, our messages/chat has only been really me asking questions or bringing up topics, and him answering them. Granted they are funny responses and he is kind, and descriptive, but usually questions are not reciprocated to me, or any new topic brought up ... I don't know whether to back off, or would you continue with someone who doesn't seem that interested in you  ? (I'm not there for dating, but we did click in the beginning, even just friends..)

Posted - October 28, 2016
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  • Maybe try something old fashioned like inviting this buddy out to a place where you can interact in person instead of texting.
      October 28, 2016 7:00 PM MDT
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  • 1138
    Well it is not that feasible; we live several states away. Plus we are both not really there for 'dating' or relationships per se, it's just do I continue as friends when he mainly answers my Q,  but doesn't extend to me?
      October 29, 2016 9:01 AM MDT
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  • It sounds like the distance between you two has "crippled" the opportunity to make a stronger connection between you and him and his lack of pursuit in his answer reflects his acceptance of the futility of going any deeper into a friendship/relationship.  Embrace what you do have with this guy and I would advise you to not invest any more of your hope and desire than is reasonably possible.
      October 29, 2016 12:34 PM MDT
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  • 1138
    Well we both are not really seeking anything, and he asked a few questions in the beginning, but really none now. I'm just saying should I even go on at all, when someone is asking nothing else about you? I mean if a woman was just answering your questions (but does seem lively, and descriptive/funny ) but asks nothing of YOU after.. would you continue?
      October 29, 2016 4:37 PM MDT
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  • 22891
    if hes not interested maybe you should back off
      October 29, 2016 7:36 PM MDT
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  • 1138
    Hi Pearl.. I did back off a week ago- when he didn't hear back he inquired why. I really didn't tell him I felt he didn't ask much about me.. I never confront people. He is witty when messaging me, but does not really then extend to me or my interests.:/
      October 29, 2016 10:04 PM MDT
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  • 46117
    You are more invested in what is going on here.  The problem is this guy probably won't realize that he missed something until you are long gone.  There is no way to broach this with him.  Find someone that wants the same invested energy in a relationship (on line or otherwise) where you don't feel like you are doing all the work. 

    (you ARE doing all the work)
      October 29, 2016 10:17 PM MDT
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  • 1138
    Thx S.... if he does message me why I have not replied, what do I do, mainly just still back away? I really don't feel like I can say 'I ask about you, but you don't seem interested in my life '... :/
      October 30, 2016 12:16 AM MDT
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