Discussion»Questions»Human Behavior» Ever hear of any guys who pretended to be ignorant/dumb so gals wouldn't feel threatened by them? Gals did that. Did guys?
Hahahahahahahahahah! You are too funnee hunnee! Thanks for that. I laughed loud and long when I read it. These days laughs are hard to come by. Thank you for your reply Crow and Happy Thursday! :) I'm still chuckling. That is a very good thing. It is also very rare! :)
So at times you have been duplicitous? Not me. Years ago on Answerbag (another internet social site with which you may not be familiar) some one asked a question about folks who used "big words". I don't dumb down for anyone. I don't use language for Answermug (and Answerbag before it) that is abnormal to me just to dumb down so folks won't think I'm hoity toity. I refuse to do it. You are whom you are. However you communicate reflects that. I have never assumed my audience is dumber than me. I have assumed that they are as smart as me or smarter. I also assume they have dictionaries available so if I use a word with which they are unfamiliar they can look it up and learn something. I do that all the time! The dictionary is my favorite book bar none. I'm not gonna pretend I'm less than I am or more. I am who I am and if that me appeals to thee that's great. If it doesn 't that is great too. Ether way I don't compromise who I am. That means everything to me WW. Everything. Thank you for your reply and Happy Thursday! :)
((hugs)) Why the hugs? Because your reply touched me so much m'dear. I can't say that I "know" what that would be like but I can imagine the fear of being found out. Whether you were a Jew in Nazi Germany or a Muslim in 2016 America o r a Japanese American during WW2. Of course their appearance betrayed them. Yours would not. The hostility/hatred/evil that some folks are capable of is frightening indeed. I have read that one of the blackest marks against Mike Pence is his extreme hatred for the LGBT community. I do not understand why anyone would care whom you love or are attracted to or how it affects their lives at all. But I have learned that scapegoats are necessary. Hate seems to be necessary. Not for all of us thank goodness but for enough of us. Every person who supports PET hates. There are millions of them and I find that not only frightening but heartbreaking. Whether they hate people of color or old people or members of the LGBT community or Muslims or whomever/whatever. They hate and they have banded together to elect a hateful evil person and he is choosing to surround himself with other hateful evil people. Do we who are the hated now have to pretend we aren't whom we are? Do we have to pretend to accept the monster just so we won't be targets? I know I'm rambling. Apologies. Thank you for your reply WW and Happy Sunday! :)
I think you are trying to be honest and I do appreciate your point.
I know we all compromise in social situations. I know I have shut my mouth when others do not appreciate my wisdom. But I cannot fathom wanting to attract someone that way. Because I am not attracted to those whom I have to spoon feed.
I often do that on here though. I just say okay and move on and cave. I am guilty of going along just to avoid an argument. (Because you SEE what happens when I do not). The whole site is filled with my debating and arguing with someone who thinks they know what is up.
I am very versed in apologizing. When I am wrong, I am wrong. But I am not going to listen to some idiot. Same with the real world. I will go along and even love people who are not as bright as others. Oftentimes I find they are a lot smarter than I am!!!! So, there is always that point to also consider.
I like your open mind. I like it better than any other type of mind.
This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at November 17, 2016 11:08 AM MST
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