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RosieG

Does silence imply approval/support/agreement? If you disagree do you do so out loud or keep quiet so you don't upset anyone? Afraid?

Posted - December 29, 2016
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  • 6988
    In my case, silence often means I don't know anything about the question OR I don't wish to type a lengthy reply.
      December 29, 2016 8:25 AM MST
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  • 113301
    So your silence means different things at different times. Thank you for your reply bh and Happy Friday!  :)
      December 30, 2016 6:17 AM MST
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  • 1615
    I will usually speak my mind and try not to be nasty, though some people think I'm nasty if I don't agree with them unfortunately.
      We have freedom of speech in our country, many countries still do not, let' respect it.  
      December 29, 2016 1:09 PM MST
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  • 113301
    I enjoy disagreement. That is how you learn things you didn't know. HOWEVER  the nature/mode/method of disagreeing is crucial. If you simply say "I disagree with thee" and then state impersonally how and why without the use of insult/digs/innuendo I'm fine with it. I don't take crap from anyone for any reason. It is unnecessary to civil discourse. When I encounter it I often ignore the source forever after. I don't like to waste my time. Thank you for your reply TomT and Happy Friday to thee!  :)
      December 30, 2016 6:20 AM MST
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  • 12
    From me, since I'm a social flutterby, silence or commonly just a nod usually means that I'm unsure how to respond, most of the time because I'm not able to understand and/or relate to the subject matter or perspective but it could also possibly mean that I feel indifferent. 

    Though I am an honest person, a lot of the time, to a fault. If I have a strong opinion, most often in conflicts, I'll voice it with little to no censorship.
    If something bothers me enough, I can't let it be without getting my perspective out there, particularly in arguments, I'll stew until I find a way to and as long as it's considered with care it doesn't matter to me if it's not accepted. 

    Of course, I, as is the burden the outspoken must endure, have gotten some heavy backlash and built up a rap sheet of perceived rudeness and disrespect though that's never what I intend.
    It's also not uncommon for my opinions to be considered disrespectful/condemned from a community for being honest and eloquent rather than sunshine and cuddles. Some people just can't accept or even at least appreciate truths that rip away the fluff. 

    As a result, I've learned quite well over the years to select my soapboxes carefully, though if I'm heated up enough I don't think half as straight.  


    This post was edited by Temperance Brennan at December 30, 2016 7:51 AM MST
      December 29, 2016 11:16 PM MST
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  • 113301
    Very nice reply m'dear. It gives me a window into your character. I take exception with you about one thing though. You never have to be rude or insulting or demeaning when you disagree. You don't have to take any shots at anyone under the pretense that you are just being honest. Honesty requires only one thing..being truthful as you perceive the truth to be. Simply stating your views without editorializing or slinging mud or taking potshots is very easy to do. All it takes is the desire to do it . Anyone can do so. Many don't bother because they enjoy verbal battles and find joy in attacking others. I don't bother with them. They are a complete waste of my time. I want to know what you think as long as you are civil when we talk. You can disagree without being disagreeable.   Thank you for taking the time to share that part of you and Happy Friday to thee Temperence  B. If it is never your intention to be rude or disrespectful just be careful with your word choices and you never will be either of those things. Easy peasy. This post was edited by RosieG at December 30, 2016 7:53 AM MST
      December 30, 2016 6:27 AM MST
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  • 12

    No, I absolutely REFUSE to get involved in verbal abuse battles.
    Although I use no censor in expressing what I perceive as true or valid, I ensure that I'm never purely bashing, I consider how much eloquence I can put behind it and if I decide that it's not enough, I withdraw. 

    Perhaps I should have clarified that I can judge with no problem when a situation is best walked away from and do so. Like I said, I've learned to appropriately select my soapboxes. 

    For example, I'm not huge into debates because I'd rather avoid situations that will heat me up as when I get heated up my judgment lapses. 

      December 30, 2016 7:35 PM MST
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  • 113301
    There are some battles that are simply not worth fighting.  They take too much out of you and give very little back. But one doesn't figure that out right away. It takes time and experience and most of all paying attention. It is so easy to stay in the same rut defending the same things against the same attacks using the same arguments. After awhile all that's left is noise. Having fought useless battles far too long I've gotten to be pretty good at avoiding them. Thank you for your thoughtful reply Temperance B and Happy New Year's Eve Saturday to thee! :) This post was edited by RosieG at December 31, 2016 4:36 AM MST
      December 31, 2016 4:35 AM MST
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  • 22891
    depends on what it is whether i keep quiet or not
      January 2, 2017 3:39 PM MST
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