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Is it possible that the planning stages of divorce can lead to house renovations?

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Posted - July 7, 2016

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  • 53394

    LOLOLOLOL!

    Of course!  How many people try to save the marriage any way possible?  "I'll just spruce things up a bit around here and everything will be alright!"

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      July 7, 2016 5:13 PM MDT
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  • 33840
    Yes I know some divorced people where the wife lives upstairs and the ex husband lives downstairs. They had to renovate so each had their own apartment basically.
      July 7, 2016 5:19 PM MDT
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  • Bez

    2148

    Lol:)

      July 7, 2016 5:21 PM MDT
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  • Bez

    2148

    I've heard of arrangements like that.

      July 7, 2016 5:22 PM MDT
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  • 53394

    Can I get in on one of those?

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      July 7, 2016 5:48 PM MDT
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  • Bez

    2148

    Possibly.

      July 7, 2016 5:52 PM MDT
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  • 7938

    Yes. When my ex and I were married, I refused to redo the master bedroom. That was supposed to be our "treat" for fixing all the other needs throughout the house and sticking to the budget. It had nasty brown shag carpeting from the 1970s and everything, but we lived with it for 13 years. No matter what, I could not motivate my ex to help me around the house. When he left, I fixed up the whole house alone, and doing up the master bedroom was my crowning touch. ^_^ Ohh, I love the floors in there so much I could hug them and the fact that it's "mine" makes it that much sweeter. 

      July 7, 2016 7:19 PM MDT
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    8070

    That remains to be "seen."

      July 7, 2016 7:27 PM MDT
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  • 5354

    Yes. Stressfull situations are know to lead to weird 'diversionary actions' as the stressed person try 'not to think about it'.

    Most often such actions are daily routine, such as vacuuming, cleaning windows or house renovations. but it can occasionally be wild departures from normal routine. Like going bungee jumping or getting engrossed in tantric yoga.

      July 7, 2016 7:45 PM MDT
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  • 53394
    Thank you, Just Asking, that's inspirational. Please tell us that your personal victory was even sweeter because he never got to see the improvements.

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      July 7, 2016 11:35 PM MDT
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  • 7938

    I actually included that at first, but I was afraid it went a little over the top. ;)

      July 8, 2016 12:02 AM MDT
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  • 53394
    Thank you.
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      July 8, 2016 12:30 AM MDT
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  • 17565

    Actually, yes.  When talking about divorce sometimes the couple realizes they don't want to separate but don't know how to find happiness with each other again.  Often they will put off the divorce and try to become close by doing things like renovating a house or buying a new one, taking a long trip together, taking dancing lessons together, or any number of things.

    I know you meant this as a silly question, but the answer truly is 'yes.'

      July 8, 2016 7:54 AM MDT
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  • Bez

    2148

    Sometimes silly questions do have sensible answers. Lol:)

      July 8, 2016 8:46 AM MDT
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  • 22891

    anything's possible

      July 9, 2016 8:00 PM MDT
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