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More drama, what do I do?

I recently became Facebook friends with a woman that I knew when we were little, she was cheated on by her ex just like I was and we both have kids.
Sometimes she posts memes that I really relate to so I like them and comment sometimes and I message her when I'm really depressed, she's really hot, but I don't think we would be ideal as a couple so we're just friends.
Recently I noticed that who I think is her nasty ex in my people I may know list meaning he's probably watching me thinking I'm hooking up with his ex.
I'm not.
Should I just get away from her or what?
Should I be worried about this as_hole?
Do I just attract drama?

Posted - February 8, 2017
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  • 2327
    Forget about her ex. Just focus on her. If she's interested in hooking up with you and you want it, go for it. If she isn't, stay good friends. Just forget about her ex. He isn't important to the way you interact with her. 
      February 8, 2017 12:09 PM MST
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  • I suggest you don't drop the chance of friendship just because it might upset someone you don't even really know or think about.   It's none of his business what you two do.
    There's no reason to sell yourself short because of someone else like that and she shouldn't be punished because of her ex. Walking away over that is doing the both of you a disservice. This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at February 8, 2017 3:28 PM MST
      February 8, 2017 12:24 PM MST
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  • Thanks, she's so cute. Maybe it can be something more one day if her ex doesn't kill me first.
    I'll try to be brave, LoL, but I feel like single parents dating in their 30s is sooo much drama.
    Lots of stuff to juggle to make it work.
    I'll try.
    Thanks. : )
      February 8, 2017 12:30 PM MST
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  • 19937
    Whatever you do, don't discuss your relationship with her on FB for anyone else to see.
      February 8, 2017 1:39 PM MST
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  • Wise words regardless of the circumstances.
      February 8, 2017 1:49 PM MST
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  • 19937
    Thank you.
      February 8, 2017 7:04 PM MST
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  • Go for it dude.   Don't be pushy but ask her if she wants to grab a drink or something. Be her friend and don't act desperate or creepy is all.
    No reason to let her having an ex or her being cute intimidate you. The worst regrets are the chances we don't take. This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at February 8, 2017 2:13 PM MST
      February 8, 2017 1:52 PM MST
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  • Should I just get away from her or what?
        No.

    Should I be worried about this as_hole?
        Why, does he ride a Harley and is his nickname Cutthroat?

    Do I just attract drama?
        Aw... this is cute. You really like her; don't you? Ask her out.
      February 8, 2017 1:50 PM MST
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  • On his profile it says in big letters I F_CK SH_T UP!!
    Yeah he looks a little meaner than I could ever be, but she's so adorable.
    I think she's a little " more experienced" than me, but maybe I can kiss her in a way that hasn't been before?
    With love. : )
    Thanks.
      February 8, 2017 2:08 PM MST
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  • 3463
    Go into private message chat. You don't even have to post on her page and he can't see you in there.
      February 8, 2017 1:53 PM MST
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  • 283
    You are friends and you are worried because her ex's name showed up on fb's "people you may know"? So there is no proof he is even that concerned about you. He could be checking out her fb page because he is checking on his kids.  I am not seeing any real drama here except what is in your mind. Unless there has been something you left out I wouldn't worry about it.
      February 8, 2017 2:08 PM MST
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  • I guess I spend a lot of time fantasizing about hurting the guys my ex cheated with so I feel like everyone's ex is just stewing inside and is unstable.
    He does look unstable though, and she is beautiful.
    Women like that don't come cheap, I might have to take a beating from some as_hole to be able to hold her.
    Love is crazy and could end me someday..
    : (
      February 8, 2017 2:18 PM MST
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  • 283
    I was cheated on twice. While I wasn't married to either one of them, they were serious relationships. The pain was real and it took a long time to trust anyone again. I can say that it took awhile, plus it took quit looking for someone to find the right one. I quit dating and focused on what I wanted in life, and made a plan to get that. I was working on that plan when the right person showed up in my life. We celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary last week.

    What I am saying is take time to figure out what it is that you want out of your life, besides a relationship. When you do that the right person will show up along that path.   
      February 8, 2017 3:14 PM MST
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  • Congratulations, I feel the same way.
    Stay away from women until I can handle relationshios.
    I get so depressed.
    My dad passed away and after 2 years I started to feel OK again, but you'd think losing this woman and being cheated on was the end of the world.
    I get way too attached like I can't live without a girlfriend.
    I need to get a grip, thanks.
    Maybe someone stable will come along. : )
      February 8, 2017 3:33 PM MST
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  • I had an ex stalker once! It was terrible! Long story short, I ended up having to get a restraining order to get him to stop. He definitely tried to thwart any friendships I had...thankfully, the people I was talking to are intelligent and able to see through his antics. My advice...don't let the ex run you off, he's full of hot air ,she just may be the best thing that's ever happened to you!
      February 8, 2017 2:51 PM MST
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  • Aww... Thanks.
    She is smart and we have each others back on most political issues.
    She doesn't want to date until it's with someone worthwhile.
    I'm such a mess these days I'd love to get myself together and sweep her off her feet and find the kind of love that you just don't care about anything and you just don't want to let her go.
    2 many Coronas maybe, but you guys are convincing me that I need to be with her smelling her hair and kissing her neck.

    You guys are bad, LoL!

      February 8, 2017 3:12 PM MST
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  • Worthwhile...hmm...maybe that just means someone who cares about her, treats her well, and is respectful!
      February 8, 2017 3:57 PM MST
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  • I still say that at least most of the time the people you may know it only because they are friends of your friends...so the chances are you have NO reason to even think about the ex.
      February 8, 2017 3:41 PM MST
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  • No, I'm right disbeliever, LoL!
    I told you about the car accident. That is proof for me, I can tell who's been creepin my fb profile.
    I swear it's true my friend just Google it and you will find articles about how Facebook's people you may know list is creepy.
    Thanks. : )
    I'm telling the truth, I wouldn't lie to you.
      February 8, 2017 3:48 PM MST
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  • Logic my treasure... at least SOME of these happen cos they are friends of friends.so there is no need to think that one is stalking you.
    And we do have to treat with caution some articles we see online.. be careful what you believe.. believe only trusted and reasonable sources..
      February 8, 2017 3:57 PM MST
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  • You are correct most are friends of friends my treasure, LoL!
    But if they are not friends if friends look out, they are checking out your profile.
    I swear. : )
    I would never argue with anyone unless I know it's true.
    You're so sweet, thanks Trumpdisbeliever, I don't believe Trump either.
      February 8, 2017 4:05 PM MST
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  • 34297
    Just send her a message and go from there.
      February 8, 2017 4:41 PM MST
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  • 11015
    I have read that Facebook uses your phone's location to locate other Facebook users near you and add them to the 'People you many know'.  I believe you can disable your device from using your location in Facebook and also in other apps.
      February 8, 2017 4:48 PM MST
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  • That's probably part of what they do.
    They're persistent, like joining a cult or something.
      February 9, 2017 9:29 AM MST
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